Giving up

ronda b

My dh is in stage 4,also has vd and multiple health issues. Does all his adls. He appetite is poor,has lost alot of weight. Yes I have tried boost and any thing he will eat.

Was talking with him this morning. Ask him if point plank are you giving up? He said why? I said your getting weaker and your voice is getting weaker. You've lost so much weight. He stated, it probably the alzheimer's and I really don't care. Says he isn't depressed just tired.

I agreed to do what ever it took to make him happy and comfortable . Don't know if that was right or wrong.

charley0419

your doing right thing. Not much light at end of this tunnel , so what ever makes him comfortable , illness SUCKS!!!

trottingalong

My husband was put on anti depressants and it really helped him. In fact, they still do to a lesser degree, we were also told to get out and walk which we did and he bounced back for quite awhile. He had extreme apathy. He also has COPD, so now walking any distance is difficult, but he does still try. Doctor has increased the anti depressants over time which does still help some.

ronda b

Dh has Ms , copd, vasular disease plus a few other. Refuses antidepressants.

Russinator

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It just isn't fair

CindyBum

In Stage 4, my DW had this level of apathy as well. She had no interest in much of anything, though I could still get her out to walk on the beach. I found any pushing I did stressed me out and made her upset. I finally let it go and now roll with whatever she wants to do. She’s in Stage 5 now and could t do much, even if she wanted to.

I have been telling her since that apathy stage that I love her and will keep her safe and comfortable. She trusted me completely at this stage and repeating how I’ll keep her safe is something I still do. I know it’s helped her and I think it will you and your DH too.

Carl46

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I don't think I'd care either, if I had that constellation of illnesses. I think making his as happy and comfortable as possible is the right thing to do. I'm sorry for your trouble.