Anxiety attacks

MarDel0917

I have an appointment for my bf (45yo EOA) this Wednesday with his pcp to discuss hospice admittance. Hospice is the quick route to get him into MC. I am having anxiety and hate taking my meds. I know this is the best step for him but when I think of him being there and him feeling alone or remembering me and I'm not there. Or if I go to visit will he want to come home.

I also can't imagine being in our apartment without him. Him sleeping on his side of our bed. Hearing his gibberish words or him sweeping the carpet with the broom. All the annoying things that I'm going to want back when he moves. Tho we have only been together for 5 1/2 years he is my other half. The most time we have ever spent apart has been 10 days physically. Voice wise has been 2 days at most. This is soooo hard. My mind goes crazy and then I go into full panic mode. I do have anxiety medication but I want to be able to self sooth and not need the meds.

What have you done to get past the mind craziness this awful disease causes the loved ones left behind?

We are all in this together 💜

Carl46

I know how you feel. I have the same irrational thoughts, and I have had anxiety attacks in the past.

All I can suggest is take your meds and self-soothe with deep breathing exercises. I have taken antidepressants daily for 30 years and would not willingly do without them. There is no shame in taking prescribed medication.

Regular exercise, especially in the sunshine, helps a lot. Walk outside, breathe deeply, and tell yourself "I can do this for him."

God bless you.

sandwichone123

Take the meds. The part of your mind that says to tough it out is not your friend. You have enough on your plate without fighting your own mind.

Please take care of yourself. Don't borrow trouble from the future either. Perhaps he will ask about coming home, but perhaps he will not. You have him now, so enjoy these days while you are together. Take your meds.

Other ways to decrease stress: walk in nature, exercise, avoid all news sources, sing along like no one's listening. :-)

SDianeL

we know how you feel. My wise Mom used to say “don’t cross bridges until you come to them” he may adjust and not want to come home. If he does, you will learn from this group how to handle it with him. (Fib). I doubt he will know when you last visited although he may be happy to see you when you visit. Remember you’re doing this for him, not to him. Take the meds. You need them. You can cut back on them later. Hugs.

midge333

I was put on a med for anxiety and found it very helpful over the last year. I placed my DW into memory care 4 months ago and it was rough for me. I found the med, meditation and exercise very helpful to get through this phase of my DW's decline.