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From NPR: A piece on "Caregiver Identity Theory"

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  • Carl46
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    Good article. The classic Greek philosophers (Plato, maybe) told us we become what we do.

  • wose
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    Thank you…very helpful even tho I cried my eyes out💕💜

  • CindyBum
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    Thank you for posting this. It resonates very deeply with me.

    I’m just going back to work after nearly two months of medical leave for myself. Caregiving burnout hit me hard, and honestly think part of that was the fog and confusion caused by holding on to who I was and not welcoming in who I have become as a caregiver.

    In my time away from work, I absolutely connected with me again and realized I have changed from this and that’s ok. My priorities have shifted. My approach to work is different and I’m freed from things like work and achievement and perfectionism that I carried with me for 59 years. I like this new me, even as I continue down this hard road with my DW.

  • Anna2022
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    edited April 1

    Thank you for this article. It resonates with me.

    Also, I was told two things when DH first started showing signs of dementia: 1) … that I would find a whole community of people who would support me and help me along the way (and I many of such people here!) and 2) … that I would need a whole new set of interpersonal and other skills to survive this journey. Both statements have proven to be true.

  • Jgirl57
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    Good read; Thank you for sharing

  • Goodlife2025
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    Thank you for posting the article. It will resonate with many of us.

  • GothicGremlin
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    This article really resonated with me as well. To be honest, I'm still processing it - there's so much there.

    So many of the experiences described by the caregivers in the article are things I experienced too (we all have), like really needing to listen to my sister (who was diagnosed with Alzheimer's and FTD) to try to figure out what exactly was going on with her. Figuring out her needs only became harder when all the nouns disappeared. And then there was the screaming….. The stress and burnout were with me always, and there were times when I felt like I was barely hanging on by my fingertips.

    Caregivers say it scrambles old habits and patterns, rearranges intimate relationships, and forces you to confront your limits. It can excavate and reorganize the soul, what one caregiver calls mind and body fracking.

    So very true.

    It's been a year since my sister passed away, and my perspectives have changed - I've changed. Somehow I got through it. But yeah, more to process.

  • ronda b
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    Hugs. It's hard. I day at a time.❤️

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DH = Dear Husband
DW= Dear Wife, Darling Wife
LO = Loved One
ES = Early Stage
EO = Early Onset
FTD = Frontotemporal Dementia
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MC = Memory Care
AL = Assisted Living
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