Question about adult daycare

elainechem

I went to my support group today. At least three people there sounded like their loved ones could benefit from adult daycare, but they all said that their people were still too early in the disease and too aware to be willing to go without a fight. How might they approach the subject to make their loved ones more amenable to attending? I have learned from this site that some told their people that they were asked to volunteer at the senior center to help the seniors ("old folks") who were in need. Then they actually agreed to help prepare and serve snacks, or to help with games and crafts, etc. Do you have any other suggestions?

I didn't take my hubby to daycare. He had LTC insurance and I used it to hire a caregiver who took him on long walks. Hubby loved it.

Carl46

The adult day care I use primarily caters to disabled adult children of working parents, so most of the group is much younger than DW. She doesn't want to go, but I just drive her there. She is greeted at the door by a caregiver, who says things like "Hi, DW, good to see you." Then they lead her inside while I go back to the car and leave. I tell her I have to run errands or take DS to his doctor, things she doesn't much want to do. She is adapting to it. She no longer spends most of her time at day care looking for me and no longer worries that someone has harmed me. She is really glad to see me when I pick her up after five hours, big hugs.

I suggest your friends talk to the adult day care centers in your area and see what they have to offer. The one I use was able to handle a friend's husband, a construction worker with EOAD, so they can handle a lot.

Babz0226

My DH has been going to Day Care for one and a half yrs as of next month. I think it has been the best thing for him and me. He will go 3 days a week, I drop him off at 8:15 and their van brings him home for 2:15. When I started to take him he would run for the door and try to follow me, but each time I said I had to go to get to the store or an app. The staff thought it would take 2 weeks for him to adjust, it took 4 weeks ,I just kept at it and they were so helpful. He is now in diapers for night but during the day he is fine but still wears them round the clock. He is in stage 7. I love this forum, read many books to educate, and watch many Tam Cummings videos. I'm trying to keep him home as long as possible, time will tell.

Stay strong and do the best you can,

harshedbuzz

Another option is to present it as a social club and attend it together to start. Once acclimated after a few visits, the caregiver creates a reason they aren't able to attend this time— a doctor's or hair appointment.

HB