Dirty habits

Kiran

HI. My mom is a stage 6 dementia patient and we have a caregiver for her during day time while I am away for work. From evening 5 pm, I take care of her and I have set a daily pattern for her.

1. Take her down for a stroll in the society everyday. Make her sit with her old friends n I socialize with then, such that she attempts to talk to them. She is 90 percent of the times confused and has become a person of very few words.

2. Feed her ...she does not eat on her own...and only stares at it. Give her a bowl of soup n homemade Indian food which she likes to eat.

3. Make her watch TV with me...so that she is involved in something atleast.

4. Change her dirty diapers n that's where the problem starts. She is passing motions post each meal and in large quantity. I clean her everyday and ensure that she is cleansed v nicely. However, she has dirty habits of touching her poop...scratching her urinary area...n when she sees poop...she just goes berserk and does not know how to calm down. Today I booke down crying in front of her while cleaning her...as she messed up everything ( I generally don't show my emotions to her & always smile to her without showing her the pain I go thru).

How do I manage such behaviour? She is 80 yrs old and it's v difficult to manage her. When I am at home along with the Caregiver...she ill treats the Caregiver and I am totally consumed with her.

At times I feel she is obsessed with me and does not want me to talk to anyone or go anywhere. I have left my family to take care of her and she does not appreciate it and I feel miserable

PPlease Give me tips to manage my mental stability.

Thanks