Wife called police on me

welden

My wife, who has Alzheimer’s, called the police on me this morning while I was out. Our daughter managed to explain the situation to them on the phone and now my wife seems to have forgotten the whole episode. So far no one has come to the house. My wife has forgotten who I am several times now. I don’t know what to do, and am looking for any advice.

Arrowhead

My wife forgot who I was very early in her journey. Sometimes it did not make a difference and sometimes it did. I'm sorry, but there's nothing you can do about it. Just like everything else about dementia, the problem is not with the patient, but with their deteriorating brain. Always remember to not take anything she says or does personally.

SusanB-dil

Can you disappear the phone?

Sorry you are dealing with that.

SDianeL

was your wife alone when she called? It may be time to restrict her ability to use the phone. She could fall victim to scammers. If you haven’t done so, please read the book “The 36 Hour Day” which helped me after my husbands diagnosis. Also search online for Tam Cummings videos on YouTube l arm all you can so you can help her. Come here often for info and support.

Bridge4

You can register with local police and 9-1-1 agencies in advance so if and when your PWD calls, the police have advanced notice of the situation, including details like pets in the home or health conditions for other family members. I used to worry about my DW calling and creating a confusing or dangerous situation, but now I know they will arrive better informed.

easy23

https://alzconnected.org/discussion/comment/241339#Comment_241339

I registered my husband with the police and he did call them. They showed up completely unaware that he was registered with them. 🙄

Anna2022

It sounds like your DW got anxious while you were gone? Maybe she can't be left alone anymore? My DH has lost his problem solving skills so he can't be left alone either. I'm working on getting him to accept someone else to come be with him while I'm out for a bit…he has anosognosia so he thinks he is just FINE.

harshedbuzz

Was your daughter with your wife when this happened? Or was she called after the fact to corroborate your story because your wife was alone when she called?

If your wife was alone, it sounds as if she no longer has the judgment to be left without supervision meaning she'll need to come along with you on errands, or you'll need to bring someone in to keep an eye on her. If she was alone when the police arrived and obviously confused, the situation may have triggered a report to APS.

HB