Struggling in Stage 8

SDianeL

my DH Lonny passed last August. I miss him so much it hurts. While I expected the mental pain I didn’t expect the physical reaction every time I think of him. I’ve been doing things to honor his memory. I moved in with my daughter and son-in-law but I feel alone. I don’t have any friends nearby and family is so busy. My sister has dementia so I can’t talk to her. I’m trying to find activities to get involved in but haven’t had any success there. I try to stay busy but some days I just have to force myself to get out of bed. Thanks for being here. 💜

Quilting brings calm

I don’t think you are grieving just your spouse. You lost your home, your friends, and ( at least for a while?) your health. You are grieving it all. Are you healthy enough to consider a move back to where you formerly lived at? If you want to, that is. Are you healthy enough to consider a part time job or a volunteer position? It’s the wrong time of year to suggest volunteering at a school… but what about a library? Our small town library puts on activities through the use of volunteers. Family bingo, homework help, yoga, etc. Think outside the box for things like that instead of traditional activities.

SDianeL

https://alzconnected.org/discussion/comment/241602#Comment_241602

thank you. I’ll check with our library.

CatladyNW

I am sorry you are having such a hard time. I lost my DH six months ago and it doesn't get any easier. Like you, I try to stay busy but the loneliness is hard to bear, even when you are surrounded with other people. As Quilting said, you are grieving not only your DH but also the loss of your old life and it is very hard to start a new one after so many years with a partner. Have you tried any grief support groups, through Hospice or the Alzheimer's association? It helps to talk with others who understand what you are going through. Sending hugs .

Lucie1961

https://alzconnected.org/discussion/72872/struggling-in-stage-8

I just read your post and wanted to reach out and say thank you. You were the first person to respond to my initial post on this forum. I took your advice and come here often. It gives me comfort. The days are getting more heartbreaking as my DH becomes invaded by this devastating condition, and I am so sorry that this pain continues for you. I hope you can take some small measure of comfort in knowing you gave a sad, scared caregiver a lifeline and a glimmer of hope.

SDianeL

https://alzconnected.org/discussion/comment/241705#Comment_241705

thank you. I’ll consider that.

SDianeL

Thank you for your kind words. I still monitor the forum to try to help others. I don’t know what I would have done without the support from other caregivers. I felt so alone. 💜