Anger and anxiety

BlackButte15

I am looking for ideas to help my DH deal with anger and anxiety. He is in the Moderate Stage. He seems to be jealous of me and our Grandchildren. He is taking Seroquel, but it might be making things worse.

SDianeL

anxiety and anger are very common. If you can’t determine what triggers it, I would talk to the doctor about changing or increasing his meds. Read the book “The 36 Hour Day” which helped me after my husband’s diagnosis. Does it happen certain times of the day? When you try to get him to do something? He can’t be jealous because he can no longer reason. Anxiety may cause him to want more attention. In later stages they may shadow their primary caregiver and have separation anxiety. Are the grandchildren there all the time? Sadly it may be better for you to get respite care and go visit them somewhere else. Noise and lack of routine affect dementia patients and cause anxiety which can create anger.

Cate2024

Since August 2024 my husband believes his wife left him, and I have been hired as his caregiver. He is very kind to his caregiver. This condition is sometimes known as Capgras Syndrom. Generally, when a person "leaves" they don't return. However, lately, if I disagree with him or out of concern will not let him do something, I become his wife again and he is always very angry when it happens. We are on citalipram 20ml but add resperidone when his wife returns to control the anger and anxiety. Usually the "caregiver" returns in a few hours if I can manage not to antagonize him with my presence. Most mornings I wake up and have to figure out who I am.

BPS

Before my wife moved to MC she was jealous of my time if I did anything with our older grandkids she said that I loved them more then her. Our oldest granddaughter (who was 16) would come over once a week to cook dinner with grandma. Grandma started doing less so I started helping our granddaughter fix dinner. My wife got upset and started accusing me of having an affair with our granddaughter. Since she has moved to MC she has accused me of having an affair with another one of the residents. If I say hi to anyone there she would get mad and tell them that I was her husband so stay away. She is taking Zoloft now and some of her feelings are still there but it is much better.