How to arrange a week of respite

tucson anne

I know that all the facilities around that say they do respite care will only do it for assisted living, not memory care, and my DH needs lots of assistance with dressing and navigating. MC facilities don't do it because it's too much work (all the paperwork for placement) and because they are usually full. I have a caregiver who comes regularly 3 hrs twice a week, but she's booked up the rest of the time. I had another one who probably could come for a daytime shift on Saturday. But I'd really like to take a week and drive to San Diego or somewhere away from the desert heat (coming) and away from thinking about and doing caregiving. I'd even settle for 5 days . Has anyone arranged for that kind of care, which would involve strangers? DH is very easy going, probably wouldn't freak out at a stranger, but I'm not sure, especially at bedtime and first thing in the morning. All suggestions greatfully received!

nopost

https://sherwoodvillageliving.com/living-options/respite-care/

you may have called them already but they don't seem to exclude MC respite …

SDianeL

I found some MC facilities that did 30 day respite care in my area. I would be concerned about leaving him with strangers for that long. Would they be staying overnight? Would you trust them in your home? Could you do a trial run and stay nearby with someone or in a hotel to see how he does for a day or two before you go out of town? When I have trouble making decisions I ask what’s the worst thing that could happen. In your case, that might be that you would have to turn around and return home.

harshedbuzz

Where I live, you can only get memory care level respite in 1-month increments. When I was crafting my Plan B in case something happened to mom, I found a SNF willing to take dad on a daily basis, self-pay, until I could get him set up in a MCF or mom was able to resume caregiving.

HB