At My Wits End

wose · May 8

At 830 tonight, my DH called the paramedics on me. So I’m in my locked bedroom and I hear footsteps…. 2 paramedics and 2 policemen are banging on my bedroom door. I’m shaking so bad I can’t even type. He told them I’m not taking my medicine ( I only take one blood pressure pill and a Zyrtec for allergies ). They were hesitant to believe and would not let me go get my phone to show them the ALZ diagnosis. They took my name birth date and cell phone number and told me to try to get along with him. I was in a locked room because I was scared not crazy (although I was singing at the top of my lungs when they arrived). I guess I could understand why they took his side, but I’m still shaking and now I don’t know what to do. I’m still. locked. In my. Bedroom…..

Jgirl57 · May 8

You need to get your phone and call 911 for your DH’s altered behavior . Don’t wait; tell them you want him taken to the ER and need a Geri psych evaluation for HIM. Do you have Medical power for him? Gather your documents

Jgirl57 · May 8

also the Alz 24/7 phone number care consultant 800 -272-3900

wose · May 8

Though I haven’t opened my door yet, he apologized and said he didn’t mean to do it but he still thinks I need help.( he had his ex wife committed to a psych hospital when they were married. Maybe he’s confusing me with her) I am still very livid. We live in a townhouse and he told our neighbors (2 different ones) that he called 911 for me cause he felt I needed help😠What a thing to worry about , my DH has ALZ and I’m worried about what the neighbors think. I’m going to wait it out for now. I don’t have a soul to call, it’s just me. He is calm now. I do have DPOA and an elder care attorney guy. Maybe it’s time for plan b. Thank you

SDianeL · May 8

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so sorry you are going through this. You need a plan. It will happen again. He’s having delusions. You may in danger. He needs to be admitted to a Geriatric Psychiatrist unit at a hospital so they can give him medication that may help his delusions. Block the phone so he can no longer use it. Make sure the neighbors know he has dementia. Don’t allow him to go out and talk to them alone. He could wander off. I hope you have the car keys hidden so he can’t get them. He can no longer reason so you need to take control immediately Please don’t wait.

Quilting brings calm · May 8

in addition…. Go to the police station tomorrow with documentation that he has dementia. That way, if he calls again, they know what’s what.

trottingalong · May 8

You most definitely need to go to the police station and get documentation on file that he has dementia. This could so easily have escalated with you being removed from your home. Your neighbors should also know.

wose · May 8

Thank @Quilting brings calm and @trottingalong ….. I had no clue whatsoever. I was just sitting on my bed listening to music and singing when very very loud many bangs on my door happened followed by this is ….. police and paramedics. I am still shaking badly. They frightened me so much that yes I will go to the office. I’m telling you they had doubtful looks on their young faces. And I keep thinking they don’t freaking believe me. 😳

midge333 · May 8

@wose: You have been through so much already. Your DH needs geripsych evaluation and probably placement. Please strongly consider executing your plan B.

jfkoc · May 8

UNDERSTANDABLY VERY FRIGHTENING.

DO THE POLICE THING…TELL YOUR NEIGHBORS…NOTIFY YOUR HUSBAND'S DR TOO

ADDED…IF YOUR HUSBAND IS CALLING 911 THEN THE FIRE DEPT IS LIKELY INVOLVED SO BE CERTAIN THEY KNOW THE SITUATION ALSO

harshedbuzz · May 8

If you have Smart911 where you live, you can create an account detailing your husband's condition. When a (!! call comes in, the first responders will get this information in route.

Traveler18 · May 8

Just sending you a hug - you are not alone. Do call ALZ and do have your Plan B in hand. Now is the time and you need to make sure you can think this through when you are not shaking and be ready to execute as you land on a plan.