Anger issues

Pat Coughlin

when my DW’s memory lapses, I expect her disorientation. What surprises me is the anger that accompanies it. It’s like she is two different people. All I can do is be patient, but it is very stressful. The

l7pla1w2

The anger may also be fear when she realizes what's going on. Imagine what that must feel like to realize your brain is failing you.

wose

My DH is like that. I can’t figure out what triggers it but I’m trying. But I do feel it’s like I7pla1w2 says , I can see the fear in his whole face. It’s very unsettling. His poor face explodes in anger… I have never seen anger in him in our 16 years until this freaking disease. I started him on a low dose lexapro but it’s only been 1 week and it happened twice today. It shakes me to my core but I can imagine what he’s feeling is way worse.💜

easy23

My DH is on risperidone 2 mg 2x/day for delusions and agitation. The psychiatrist recently added 25 mg Seroquel, as needed. That seems to help.

Timmyd

For me, I had to step back and see if I could identify any pattern in circumstances that preceded the anger. Ultimately I concluded my DW's life was shrinking profoundly as was her comfort zone. I still get the anger because I cannot live my entire life within her comfort zone, but at least I kind of know when to expect it. Also we have been trying various prescription medications looking for the the right drug at the right dosage. However that has been taking some time.

SDianeL

it’s the disease. It’s not her. Anxiety and agitation is common and because you are her primary caregiver it’s taken out on you. Talk to her doctor about her anger and ask them to prescribe something for her anxiety. A Geriatric Psychiatrist is usually the best doctor to manage those meds.

Bridge4

Anyone have ideas on how to get LO to take their medication for agitation and anger? My DW recently was prescribed Rexulti, but is in total denial about her behavior and is obsessed with conspiracy theories about why I might be meddling with her prescriptions. She refuses to take anything and not coincidentally, the anger is only growing worse by the day. I’d like to keep her at home as long as possible, but this will eventually be the proverbial straw that breaks this camel’s back.

Gator1976

https://alzconnected.org/discussion/comment/243466#Comment_243466

Our psychiatrist took my LW off Lexapro and put her on Prozac. Said Lexapro has too many bad side affects.

JeriLynn66

 My DW recently was prescribed Rexulti, but is in total denial about her behavior and is obsessed with conspiracy theories about why I might be meddling with her prescriptions. She refuses to take anything and not coincidentally, the anger is only growing worse by the day

Could you ask the pharmacist which medications might be crushed/added to food or put in liquids? This is pretty common.

wose

Thanks @Gator1976 …..DH has only been on it a week, but his anger seems worse.

Bunny whisperer

https://alzconnected.org/discussion/comment/243483#Comment_243483

My DH wouldnt swallow his Citalopram any more so I hide them in greek yogurt and he has no clue he even takes them. I make sure all the medication is in the first spoonful of the yogurt that way I know he got all of it. I even use pudding sometimes while others use applesauce, but applesauce didnt work as well imo. I wish you good luck with finding the right food to hide it in.

Bridge4

Thanks Jeri and Bunny; unfortunately you are probably right about having to add meds to food. I have been trying to pursue a path of persuasion or motivation, but DW is just not able to rationalize the cost/benefit trade-offs anymore. Sad, but this would be another big step in disease progression.

Bobbi47714

My husband (60yr old) has MANY health problems: Dementia, stage 3 kidney failure, copd, heart problems....with that being said his anger is the absolute worse!! The hollering, cussing and name calling has gotten completely out of control, just waiting for it to get physical. Perfect example he went off today cause he didn't want me to join any support groups or even discussion's. It doesn"t matter whether I find online or in person groups. While I'm trying to do my best I'm not sure what to do anymore. I'm (54yr old) who has my own health issues but i always find time to put him first and that doesn't seem to be enough anymore. He has recently started the "arguing" as he calls it; in front of our 4yrold grandson. While I've had horrible ptsd from my previous marriage, I've tried to understand and help him, but when he's in a "mood" it throws me back into my past. I don't know how to get past this feeling and to helping him. He is on Hospice and they have tried almost ever medicine or combination of meds and nothing is helping. I'm lost, confused and need help.