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Cate2024
Cate2024 Member Posts: 13
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My DH is Stage 6 b/c. Physically fit. But he is mostly incoherent, attempting to tell me something or ask me something. I used to be able to figure out what he meant, but very recently I truly have no idea what he is saying. He gets very frustrated with me. Impossible to redirect. We came back from taking our dogs to the groomers and he doesn't know who one of the dogs are, believing we somehow left ours behind. Conversation is like with a toddler.

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  • annie51
    annie51 Member Posts: 310
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    I am having the same issue with my DH who is also in Stage 6. It’s so frustrating for both of us. If he’s asking a question, I try to come up with something to say even if I have no idea what he means. Sometimes I think too long and he gets angry because I didn’t answer him. Conversations are hopeless. I wish I could give some sage advice but all I can offer is empathy.

  • tonyac2
    tonyac2 Member Posts: 37
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    My DH can yell at the top of his lungs (any time of day or night) Mother!!, Mom!! When I come he asks me what I want. What I want is to strangle you sometimes. He talks a lot of gibberish as well, also gets angry when I can’t follow the conversation. He thinks we have two dogs as well. We only have one. Conveniently they look identical. I asked him what the other dogs name is, he says Wolf. I said, that’s a neat name, I like it. He says, you should, you named him. Ha!

  • Biggles
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    Goodness gracious how strange we are all in the same boat. My DH constantly asks where is the other dog? We only have one so I say the other one was his life-size comforter toy puppy with a beating heart he had when he was a new puppy. He also suffers with Aphasia so word salad. I often have no idea what he is trying to say but I feel so much for him we used to talk, discuss, exchange thoughts and ideas I miss that so much. I’m becoming an expert on facial expression's, nodding in the appropriate spots and saying things like Humm you could be right, really? and anything else I can think of and I often don’t know what we are talking about. I try to smile, laugh and finish with a kiss. It helps, it’s that or cry. Don’t be too hard on yourself or your partner remember they are broken.

  • annie51
    annie51 Member Posts: 310
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    Thanks for the kiss idea. Too often, I end up in tears of sadness - it comes so quickly I can’t control it.

Commonly Used Abbreviations


DH = Dear Husband
DW= Dear Wife, Darling Wife
LO = Loved One
ES = Early Stage
EO = Early Onset
FTD = Frontotemporal Dementia
VD = Vascular Dementia
MC = Memory Care
AL = Assisted Living
POA = Power of Attorney
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