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lee jones

How to get DW to accept help with personal hygiene?

Goodlife2025

Hi Lee, lots of others on here will have great ideas and have been dealing with this issue longer than we have. But in our situation I have had to start doing rather than asking. Handing her a toothbrush ready to go with water running and me also brushing my teeth demonstrating what we are doing now. I have to put on my no nonsense voice and just state that this is what we are doing now and I try not to give her the option to resist. She isn't making other decisions so I don't let this be the one she gets to suddenly be stubborn about.

Chris20cm

With DW, I finally just had to take charge of her hygiene. She wasn't showering or shampooing and it became obvious she wouldn't take care of herself. I get her shower ready, turn the water on to a comfortable temperature and tell her it's time for her shower. I made standing appointments with the beautician for shampoo and styling or trim if needed. She still brushes her teeth but not often enough so I will have to monitor that.
When I tell her her shower is ready she always laughs, but takes it anyway.

Biggles

We hop into the shower together (big long shower no doors to contend with) I hand him a beautifully smelling piece of medicated soap, he washes his ‘private’s’ ha ha I use a shower scrubber and soft soap and scrub his back which he really likes etc. he’s then out and it’s my turn. When I get out it’s shave time with music on my iPhone. Day after day repeat repeat. It works. Good luck!