I am just so sad

Jazzma

My DH passed from Alzheimer's on June 17th. We were together for 36 years, most of it very good. I just can't stand the grief. How can someone who was so vibrant simply cease to be? How can I live the rest of my life without him?

My mind knows that time will help, but right now it is so hard.

This forum has been so helpful as we moved down the road to this point. I know there are people here who will understand.

tigersmom

Jazzma, I am so sorry that you have joined us in Stage 8. I lost my husband nine months ago to mixed dementia, ALZ and VD, and the shock of his loss is still palpable. I had only three years and three months with him post-diagnosis. To say that I was unprepared is a huge understatement. The grief is enormous and, for me, much worse than anything I had anticipated. Try to be gentle with yourself, and spend time with people who will let you talk about him. Memory is how we keep them alive. He is still with you. But in these terrible early days, it can be hard to hear. Sending you a big hug. Everyone on this board has been there.

JulietteBee

Please accept my condolences. 🙏🏼Even though you know the day is coming, you are never prepared. I understand and send hugs.🫂

Maru

Heartfelt condolances and hugs.

CatladyNW

I am very sorry for your loss, Jazzma. I still wonder how I will live my life without my DH who passed last October. The terrible waves of pain never diminish, but they become a little less frequent with time. Hang in there. Sending hugs.

GothicGremlin

I'm so sorry, Jazzma. Stage 8, especially the early days of Stage 8, are hard. I lost my younger sister to Alzheimer's and FTD a little more than a year ago and the immediate aftermath was painful and in some ways bewildering. How could she be gone? Losing a sibling is very different than losing a spouse, but the horrors of the disease are similar.

It's taken awhile for me to come to terms with everything, but I'm getting there, and hopefully you will too. tigersmom is right, spend time with people who will let you talk about your DH. I talked a lot to my sister's two best friends (I became friends with both of them over time), especially in the early days, and they were immensely helpful.

SDianeL

so very sorry for your loss. I lost my soulmate August 12, 2024, almost a year ago. It does get better but still comes in waves when you see something that reminds you of them. My Mom told me that when you lose someone you love, to do things to honor their memory. So I made a list and am checking them off. I try to focus on the wonderful memories. I read that grief is the price we pay for love. So true. Praying for your strength and comfort. Sending love and hugs. 💜

SDianeL

Garth Brooks song The Dance. 💜

https://m.youtube.com/watch?v=6FHvP_Yv0wE

jehjeh

Exactly! Thanks for sharing