Warning

ronda b

My BF passed away last night unexpectedly. Her Dh has alz. Stage 6 .She took care of him by herself. Her kids have have no idea of what to do with their dad. They know nothing about his meds.,his sleep habits,how to get him changed or anything. She didnt keep them informed on anything. There is no poa or will or guardians set up for him. Just a warning, Please keep someone beside yourself involved in their care or how let them know exactly what it takes to care of the LO.. I. Know we think our family's are busy or we don't want to burden them,but today was a reality check for me. I knew more about his medicine and habits and actions than his family did. That was not right.

Lgb35

I am so sorry for your loss. I do keep our adult kids informed about their dad. At this point he is fairly independent but we know that will change. This is going to be hard on your BF’s hubby with the change in routine and your BF not being there. Prayers

ronda b

https://alzconnected.org/discussion/comment/248027#Comment_248027

Thank you. I know. Right now he has no idea what's going on.

SDianeL

so sorry for your loss. Thank you for your post. Very Important information.

Dio

Thank you for the wise advise/reminder. I'm the worst procrastinator. I've been planning to put together a care "cookbook" for DH so that secondary agents behind me on his DPOA and Health Directive know exactly what to do. It may be a lot of work, but will save everyone later.

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My wife's primary doctor asked us if we had a plan for my wife if something happened to me before her. This opened up the window for us to have a discussion with our daughter and son in-law. My wife could not live independently at home anymore. So we toured Assisted living places that also had Memory Care facilities. We came up with a plan and have everything written down. I suggest if you are carry for an ALZ love one, that you come up with a plan.