Letter to Neurologist/OT for help

MNDaughter

Hi, My 85-year-old father was diagnosed with dementia over a year ago and is rapidly declining. Next week, he will receive some cognitive testing to determine his eligibility for a drug and will also have a driving assessment by an occupational therapist. My brother and I have drafted a letter to ask the physician/OT's to talk to him about allowing my mom to get some help, and other lifestyle changes that he needs to make (but doesn't understand or agree he needs to make). Has anyone else written a letter like this to caregivers or have a template they would be willing to share?

H1235

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Welcome. I have used a note to moms doctor many times to explain problems that would have angered mom a lot if I brought them up at the appointment. My mom was a bit more receptive to making changes if a doctor suggested them. But in the end she was very stubborn and thought our restrictions were ridiculous. Most people with dementia have anosognosia. This is an inability to recognize their symptoms or even limitations. It makes things very difficult! One of the first rule to learn as a dementia caregiver is NEVER try to reason or argue with a person with dementia! My mom would probably be ok to live in her home if she didn’t have anosognosia. She thinks she can do things she can’t and would not comply with any restrictions. She is in assisted living now. If he doesn’t follow along with restrictions to keep him safe, YOU will need to take other steps. There are very few people with dementia that will admit it’s time for assisted living. Most go kicking and screaming. Do you or your brother have a durable power of attorney. If not I would see a lawyer asap. I have been told that if someone diagnosed with dementia is in a car accident the insurance may not cover because of the diagnosis. This site is a great resource.