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mpang123
mpang123 Member Posts: 276
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Just letting you all know that my mother, with Alzheimer's, passed away 5/7/25

And dad with vascular dementia, just passed away 8/4/25

Now dealing with family members fighting over the will.

Lots of financial and legal responsibilities for the executors and beneficiaries.

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  • JeriLynn66
    JeriLynn66 Member Posts: 1,210
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    My condolences in the loss of your Father and Mother. And I'm also sorry you are having to deal with the aftermath of family squabbles over assets. Sending you hugs and wishes for peace.

  • lisn2cats
    lisn2cats Member Posts: 39
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    I am so sorry for your double loss. It's awful when family become more concerned with "stuff" rather than coming together to support each other. It's a triple whammy. Sending you peaceful thoughts and compassion.

  • harshedbuzz
    harshedbuzz Member Posts: 5,548
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    I am so sorry for the loss of both your parents. You were a dedicated and loving advocate for them.

    HB

  • JulietteBee
    JulietteBee Member Posts: 187
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    I pray peace & healing will come in due time. Until then, rely on the "Great I am." He will cradle you while you cry.🙏🏽

  • SusanB-dil
    SusanB-dil Member Posts: 1,466
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    So sorry to hear of the double loss. They were blessed to have you watching out for them.

    Sorry you are dealing with the family conflict on top of the grief.

    Do take time for you.

  • SDianeL
    SDianeL Member Posts: 1,942
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    so sorry for your loss. Praying for you and your family. 🙏💜

  • fmb
    fmb Member Posts: 556
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    I am so sorry for your double loss. I lost my husband and mother 6-1/2 weeks apart earlier this year. It seems to multiply the grief exponentially to lose two loved ones so close together. I also can empathize with your problem of the family fighting over the will. My husband's daughters gave me an extremely difficult time until our respective attorneys managed to convince them that there was not enough there to be financially worth the legal battle. I'm praying for you.

  • Quilting brings calm
    Quilting brings calm Member Posts: 2,877
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    I doubt that your dad’s Will can be handled until your mom’s is done. If I remember correctly, your nephew is the executor and sole beneficiary of her estate. So the family members will contest that first. The thing is, even if they win, the estate then probably goes to your dad. And that’s if there is anything left after paying for the funeral, medical expenses, lawyers. Then rinse and repeat with your dad’s. If you aren’t an executor, just sit back and stay out of the line of fire. Assume you aren’t getting a dime.

  • psg712
    psg712 Member Posts: 548
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    So sorry to hear that you lost both parents so close together. And that there is strife in the family over the estates. What a struggle for you.

Commonly Used Abbreviations


DH = Dear Husband
DW= Dear Wife, Darling Wife
LO = Loved One
ES = Early Stage
EO = Early Onset
FTD = Frontotemporal Dementia
VD = Vascular Dementia
MC = Memory Care
AL = Assisted Living
POA = Power of Attorney
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