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Possessed Look

CindyBum
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Hi all,

Lately, as my DW drifts deeper into her dementia, I've seen a kind of wild look in her eyes and she definitely does not look like she's seeing me at all in those moments. It's a bit disconcerting when it happens and I can only imagine what's bringing her to that space. The poor thing. Anyone else have this with their LO?

I feel like she's really winding down, but who in the world knows how long the winding down will take.

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  • Lazuza
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    Yes. I take it as my LO unfortunately doesn't recognize who I am. It's tough.

  • SDianeL
    SDianeL Member Posts: 1,910
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    yes, my DH would go into what I described as a trance. He wouldn’t respond to anything. So sad. What stage is your wife? Any other concerning behaviors or weight loss?

  • elainechem
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    I wonder if she's having hallucinations? Many people with dementia develop them.

  • Whyzit2
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    In Have you considered that he may be experiencing seizures ? My husband has very short seizures in which he doesn’t hear what I’m saying can’t follow a direction he’s just frozen in time he stairs straight ahead. My suggestion would be to talk to his medical team because they can give him medication to alleviate these events . Also, be sure he is no longer driving because he if he has no control at that time he is at high risk for having accidents. My DH has done very well with the anti-seizure meds . May God bless you with peace during this challenging time.

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  • CindyBum
    CindyBum Member Posts: 467
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    Definitely having hallucinations. They’ve increased a lot these last few weeks.

  • CindyBum
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    I believes she’s now entered Stage 6. She’s been moving toward it for months. Has also lost a good 10 pounds in the last year. Sad to watch.

  • harshedbuzz
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    @CindyBum

    While it is possible she's could be having a hallucination or absence seizure in the moment, what you're seeing could also be the result of visual processing issues common to late-stage dementia.

    Sometimes it felt like dad was Looking through and beyond me. Other times his eyes looked flat and unseeing.

    Many of dad's hallucinations were pleasant for him; he'd often share them with us. He once told me not to sit in a chair because his lawyer/golf buddy was already sitting there.

    HB

  • White Crane
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    Cindy, this has happened once or twice with my husband. For I think it was hallucinations. I hope you can find something to help. Sending big hugs.

  • Dio
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    Oh, yes! That possessed look of DH is something I can't erase from my mind. His entire face looked evil and sinister. He wouldn't respond to my pleas. Mr. Hyde had taken over. It was the scariest time for both of us because I might have harmed him to defend myself, that is if he didn't get to me first. I picked up the phone to call 911 but before I could talk he overpowered me and hung up. Thankfully, the call center had our phone on notice due to recent calls and police was dispatched in spite of the quick cut off. If these episodes hadn't occurred, DH would still be home right now and not in memory care 😥. Wishing you all the best.

  • CindyBum
    CindyBum Member Posts: 467
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    Yikes! I’m so sorry. At least my DW so far seems unlikely to be violent. Verbally mean occasionally, but not violent. She’s more likely to drive me crazy from demanding constant attention to her nonsense ramblings and questions that make no damn sense either. It’s wearing me the he’ll down.

  • easy23
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    Yes my DH gets that look when he is in the deep throes of a delusion. It usually takes awhile for him to come back around. It is a very scary look.

Commonly Used Abbreviations


DH = Dear Husband
DW= Dear Wife, Darling Wife
LO = Loved One
ES = Early Stage
EO = Early Onset
FTD = Frontotemporal Dementia
VD = Vascular Dementia
MC = Memory Care
AL = Assisted Living
POA = Power of Attorney
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