So I was planning to do something productive today for once…

Vitruvius

My plans for a productive day came to an end mid morning when hospice called. The hospice nurse regularly calls to update me on his visit.  Today he told me first that my DW was being recertified, and assured me that there was no chance she will ever not be recertified based on her condition. While doing so he told me that she has just been weighed in at 74.6 pounds. She is 5’-7” which makes her BMI 11.7, Google tells me this is considered life threatening. The nurse went on to tell me, as he has before, that he and the hospice doctor are a bit surprised that she is still alive in this condition and how rare it is for a dementia patient to get this far along in their experience…and that ended any chance of my doing anything meaningful today. 

RetiredTeacher

I am very sorry for the sad news you received today. I can imagine how much that hurts your heart to hear how little she weighs. This disease is so insidious, ravages their mind, body and spirit. It is truly heart breaking. Sending hugs and prayers for you and your wife.

CindyBum

That would definitely put an end to a day. I’m so sorry. Xoxo

Lgb35

https://alzconnected.org/discussion/73898/so-i-was-planning-to-do-something-productive-today-for-once

I am so sorry to hear this. I have been thinking about you two and wondering how things are going.

Beachfan

Vitruvius,

I am so sorry for the situation in which you find yourself and your DW for these past many years. As much as you love your DW, there is a limit to how much the mind, body and spirit can tolerate as a caregiver. As you may recall, I am 2 years into stage 8 after 13 1/2 years of “diagnosed “ Alz. Had it not been for a sudden, undetected internal bleed which took my husband’s life in 3 days, I truly believe that he would still be here today, lingering, just lingering. Although I never wished or prayed for DH’s demise, I am thankful every day that neither of us suffered a minute more than we did. May you both find peace sooner, rather than later. Your stamina is remarkable; I would have caved by now. 🙏🏻🙏🏻

Kat63

So sorry for your news today. It has to be heartbreaking. 🙏🏻🙏🏻

SDianeL

So sorry. May your DW have a peaceful passing if it’s time. 🙏💜

Daughter of a Marine

I can't imagine how difficult it was to hear that news regarding your love. No matter how much we try to prepare for that call, it isn't possible. My heart and prayers are with you both.