Dealing with DH depression.

Color Blue

My DH seems to do well until about 3 p.m. or so when he gets very depressed and confused. Sometimes he gets restless but it is the depression that worries me the most. I can't get him to do any of the things that he used to enjoy doing.

trottingalong

https://alzconnected.org/discussion/73936/dealing-with-dh-depression

This is very common and is called sundowning. My DH is on antidepressants and it has helped. As they change you will find that little will interest them, especially things they used to enjoy. My DH became stressed when he would attempt to do something he had enjoyed for years because he couldn’t figure it out. We were able to take short afternoon walks or a drive to the beach. He doesn’t like doing that any more either.

wose

Yes, it’s very real and distressing. Around early to mid afternoon my DH gets extremely restless. So I have to drive him around aimlessly if I don’t have errands. But when we get home he gets depressed. He has zero interest in anything other than watching tv or riding in the car. That’s our life now, me running around like a mad lady trying to get everything done so we could go for 2 or 3 hour drives everyday. It’s so hard. I’m so sorry you have to go through this💜

annie51

https://alzconnected.org/discussion/comment/252072#Comment_252072

Wow @wose that sounds exactly like my life! Other than some walking and maybe so pruning of plants outside, there’s not much else I can get him to do especially in the afternoon.

Color Blue, I do think it’s a natural progression but if the depression is that bad, it probably is worth talking to a doctor about medication.

SDianeL

Welcome. As others mentioned this is very common. If he is showing outward signs of depression like crying or talking about being sad I would ask the doctor for medication. It takes time for the meds to work and to get them properly adjusted. If possible ask for a referral to a Geriatric Psychiatrist who is best to get meds adjusted. If you haven’t done so, read the book “The 36 Hour Day” which helped me after my husband’s diagnosis. We understand what you’re going through.