Want to bring him home not nursing home

Eloise0304

Husband probably need physical therapy to get his legs stronger after being hospitalized for falls and the rage of a dementia episode. and bed bound for a week so far. I am not sure of his cognition or aggression since he has been sedated to keep him calm and stay in bed for fear of falling. How can I request the hospital to provide PT prior to his release so he might gain more mobility after his Lumbar Puncture procedure. He is still cognitively impaired but since he has been sedated I am not sure how bad it really is now I need some help to navigate this

ronda b

Just ask the nurse or Dr if he can get some will he is there.

Jazzma

@ Eloise, Please stop! You've heard the advice from so many people here. Bringing him home is a bad idea, just read your previous posts when he was there. Please, please, take action to find a place for him that is NOT at home so both of you can be safe.

SDianeL

please don’t bring him home. If he comes off the medication he will probably revert to his previous aggression and combative behavior. If he stays on the heavy medication he may continue to be bedridden or in a wheelchair and may become incontinent. Based on your previous posts you are not willing or physically able to care for him in either scenario. Let them place him in a care facility. So sorry.

Eloise0304

I know that I am in denial. I am even scared to visit him in his hospital room for fear that I will set him off, if he is having a bad day. Instead I call the nurse to see how he is doing, or just peak in the room. I am also just afraid of this whole ordeal. Tonight I called the nurse station to see how he was doing, and was fearful of the answer. I was afraid that they would call me later because there was a problem. They are now giving him ativan every four hours. Do you think I should see himin his room at this point?

Biggles

There comes a time when you have to have a serious talk to yourself and say it’s time to do the right thing, the sensible thing and the safe thing. It seems that the time is now. Be kind to your DH and yourself and leave him in safe hands at MC. Take a deep breath and ask the nurses when is the right time to visit and do what the nurses suggest. Don’t overthink this extremely hard situation just leave him where he is safe and visit when it’s appropriate. It’s so hard and so sad.

easy23

I know money was a big factor for me in considering MC. Is that part of the reason you want your DH home?

BethL

I agree 100% with this as said by Biggles: "There comes a time when you have to have a serious talk to yourself and say it’s time to do the right thing, the sensible thing and the safe thing. It seems that the time is now. Be kind to your DH and yourself and leave him in safe hands at MC."

Eloise, I don't think a single person has responded to you on your over 70 posts that you should bring him home. Everyone says he needs either a geriatric psychiatry hospitalization, memory care or a nursing home.

Use your analytical brain. Don't use your emotional brain. What is safe? What is doable for you? Think about how you were feeling and what was going on before he went to the hospital. Do you wish to place yourself in that circumstance again?

Eloise0304

Do you believe in coincidences?

I think I saw something that bring me to the confusion that everything happens for a reason

I saw his neurologist when he went to the ER, the DR was just walking down the hall. What are the chances of that within a very large hospital? He got the ball rolling for his care,

I must listen to him All of you for your comments, and I do take them to heart. I must trust the DR's and need everyone's prayers

jfkoc

Have you found placement for your husband??? You need to do this as Plan B.

cdgbdr

Eloise,

From what you describe, he needs geripsych to stabilize his mental status and rage. Please know that this is unpleasant for him too. Then, if needed, he could go for some skilled care including rehab. Work with the social worker at the hospital on a plan. Visit when the docs and nurses advise it. Please do not put you and him in harm's way. He needs to be in safe, capable hands. You must care for yourself. Please take care of yourself and him.