Yes, I'm back for a visit, and need a little input

Ed1937

I hope you are all holding up well. It's been a while since I've visited. As always, make sure you somehow get a little time for yourself, away from caregiving, if possible. Do something nice for YOU.

About 2 years ago, I knew of a woman in her 20's or maybe 30s who was working at a local Target store as a cashier. I don't really know her, but I did briefly meet her, and it was obvious that she had some problems. Within the last few days I found out that she is now in memory care (don't know how long she's been there), and I'm sure she wouldn't know who I was. But I would like to visit her, in hopes of maybe making her day just a little brighter, even if only for a short while. I have no idea what stage she is in, but I would like to bring her something to make her feel like somebody cares. I don't have much money to spend anymore, so I was hoping to find something for twenty or thirty dollars, tops. I know it's hard to make suggestions without knowing what stage she is in, but any suggestions will be appreciated.

charley0419

everyone loves flowers even some kind of sweets. Or maybe call and ask

BPS

Maybe a stuffed animal

White Crane

Flowers are nice but I know from experience that the staff probably won’t water them and they will soon wilt. A cuddly stuffed animal or a fleece throw might be nice. Even something simple like a cookie would probably bring a smile to her face. It doesn’t have to be expensive. God bless you, Ed, for wanting to bring a moment of joy to this young woman.

jfkoc

Chocolate! Even a Hershey bar would do.

ladyzetta

Hello Ed.

Your so sweet, it's nice hearing from you. Just make it something simple, maybe a flower in a pretty vase, like you get at the grocery store and some cookies. She needs a visitor. Then the next visit, maybe a warm throw. Hugs Zetta

harshedbuzz

@Ed1937

Can you reach out to her family via the facility and ask them?

I could see where family might be very protective of her given that they don't know you.

HB

Quilting brings calm

once you get permission to visit, I’d suggest a cute ‘just because’ card with little wording on it. A box of candy ( the kind you get at Walgreens to take into a movie theatre).

Carl46

My wife's MC didn't permit anything breakable, like a glass vase. Sweets can be a problem if she is diabetic or prone to share with other patients who are. The little "Happy Mother' Day" balloon I took her was still on her bedside table at the end.

Chris20cm

https://alzconnected.org/discussion/73956/yes-im-back-for-a-visit-and-need-a-little-input

https://alzconnected.org/discussion/73956/yes-im-back-for-a-visit-and-need-a-little-input

https://alzconnected.org/discussion/comment/252290#Comment_252290

I think a photo book of beautiful nature scenes might be nice. Here's one you can get on Amazon for $9.99:

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Ed1937

Thanks for the replies. I visited the cemetery today, and took some beautiful flowers from Carole's garden. The cemetery is only about 4 or 5 blocks from memory care facility, so I stopped in to see her, just to assess her progression. She seems to be in pretty early stage, and she got a big smile when she knew I was there to see her, I like the idea of a throw for her. I doubt they will allow flowers, but I'll have to check. Also not sure about food of any kind., but I'll find out. Thanks again!

Biggles

How thoughtful and sensitive of you, what a sad journey for such a young woman. Touch, smell and taste as have been suggested. I would love something soft, in ‘real’ life I would love a puppy so maybe a soft toy she can lift to her face and hold.

Jgirl57

Hallmark has beautiful pop up cards that stand up when opened. That has become my go to gift when visiting others. You are thoughtful human Ed!!!

Beachfan

Ed,

You’ve been given great and thoughtful suggestions, but based on her reaction to your first impromptu visit, I bet your “presence” is a great present. Good to hear from you; hope you are well and happy! 🥰