Helping Mom Get Help

EdithAnne

Hello! This is my first post here and I’m glad to have found this group. Mom is is assisted living and will soon be transitioning to memory care. There’s a lot to that which I will unpack later.

My immediate focus is that I have added showering and dressing support to her care list. She can physically do both, but doesn’t do either very consistently. I’m wondering if anyone has tips on introducing this new service plan to her in a positive way. She will resist new things for a while, but will eventually get used to the routine. I just need to get her over the initial awkwardness of it.

Thanks for listening!

JulietteBee

Welcome to the group no one has ever wanted to join.

I'd suggest that you tell her someone is going to be standing by to assist IN CASE she needs help, or the facility is fearful of residents falling while getting in and out of the shower.

harshedbuzz

Hi and welcome. I am sorry for your reason to be here but pleased you found this place.

She's going to resent and resist this new support if you make it about her continued decline, so I would couch it as a new policy at the facility for everyone.

HB

SDianeL

The 2 suggestions posted above are good ones. Memory Care Aides should know how to introduce their assistance. They will attempt but not force her. They will try again the next day. Many PWDs become agitated when new things are introduced. If that happens, I would ask her doctor for anxiety medication.

H1235

My advice would be to just be to visit and enjoy time with her and let the facility do their job. If you get involved she may end up angry and resentful of you. Let the staff take the heat. I hope the transition goes well.