I Want To Live With Someone Else

CindyBum

My spouse with nearly complete aphasia has managed to pull out that full sentence for a couple of weeks now. She is soooooo sick of me being her caregiver. I now represent the person controlling her life and keeping her from driving to go see friends, etc. Which I am, though I'm providing her a safe, loving and comfortable environment. In my eyes anyway. To her, I have become her personal Nurse Ratched. Maybe I need to go buy an old school nurses hat to complete that picture. Halloween costume idea!

Watching her do circles in the driveway right now and having a little vent. Thanks for listening.

ronda b

Know the feeling. My DH has lost weight . I keep trying to feed him,protein shakes anything he wants. Take h out to eat etc.. he keeps saying I'm force feeding him.

harshedbuzz

I am so sorry.

HB

PS The bit about the old school nurse's cap made me giggle.

CindyBum

I told my friend that my DW said she wants to live with someone else and my friend asked, “Did you say, ‘Me too’?”

Thank God for good friends.

trottingalong

Oh Boy, I’m sorry. A good scream might help you. 😱

wose

, I’m so so with you. There is so little joy anymore. My DH hates me and tells me that every day. It’s so hard to tolerate. It’s been so long since I’ve heard a kind word or experienced joy. I was thinking today how different I am now. I’m no longer the fun filled, always laughing, positive person I was and I hate it. I want my old self back. The constant criticism and digs take a toll. I don’t want to just get through every day, I want to feel alive again, but we know that’s impossible on most days. So for now, I’ll dust myself off and go find and put on that Nurse Rachted outfit but with the usual smile and “ yes dear, that’s sounds great.” Thanks for the chuckle from one beach to another😂

ronda b

I think that will be my saying now. Im nurse rachet ot a caregiver

😀

PlentyQuiet

We are a second family for DH. Whenever he asks where his wife is I'm tempted to call up his ex and say that he is asking for her. He can go to her with my blessing 😂

annie51

So sorry Cindy! I never thought of myself as a control freak but sure turned into one in DH’s eyes. I chuckled at the Nurse Ratchet costume. 😉 Hope tomorrow is better.

wose

https://alzconnected.org/discussion/comment/257184#Comment_257184

I would love to try that, but he often thinks I am his Ex-wife……sometimes I think .. if only 🤭

Karen711

Viva to all the Nurse Ratchets!!
Yep, often I can’t leave the slightest mess (even in the middle of meal prep) in the kitchen or my wife (with aphasia) will come along and demand “now who left this @rap s@!t here like this!” A perfectly flowing sentence, clearest thing she’s said all day. Of course it’s just us and the dogs….

WIGO23

My DH says “you think I am stupid and can’t do anything” when I try to help him out when he obviously needs help. Leave him alone and he fails. Try to help him and he hates it. Can’t win!

Chance Rider

https://alzconnected.org/discussion/comment/257228#Comment_257228

Right there with you. Every.Single.Day.

trottingalong

https://alzconnected.org/discussion/comment/257228#Comment_257228

I have to be careful with that as well.