$300 speaker

rplourde50

my DW threw away a nice Bose speaker while taking out the trash. I know there’s nothing I can do about it now. Just venting.

Milo4455

Vent away. It sucks!

rplourde50

thank you!

ronda b

My DH went through a stage of throwing stuff away. Thank goodness it's gone. So sorry about your speaker. I use to check the trash every day.

Chance Rider

I’m sorry about your speaker! Your post is a great heads up for me to be aware of what could happen.

I’m learning so much but have a long road ahead.

annie51

So sorry! This is the best place to vent.

Kat63

Vent away.

I think the items that get misplaced or thrown away or things that are broken or damaged by our LOs is something we don’t always mention but occurs so frequently. I’ve had to replace numerous items, pay to have things fixed, and no longer have my house decorated the way I really want. All part of our world where you have to live it to really understand.

Sorry you lost the speaker.

rplourde50

yes. We have to let go of some little things in deference to the big things- the ones we love.

Biggles

Vent all you like!

My DM gave away a beautiful expensive camera, case and lens to a worker who was replacing the stumps under our house!!!! 🤬

JulietteBee

My pwd just threw out their cell phone whike we were on vacation. The tracking app I had put on it to track HER, located the phone in the garbage processing facility in a state 100s of miles away.💔😭

SDianeL

Sorry about the speaker. Unfortunately throwing things away is very common with PWDs. I believe they think they are putting it away instead of understanding they are throwing it away. I would take the trash out myself and keep a smaller trash can in the kitchen and go through it each night before taking it out.

rplourde50

https://alzconnected.org/discussion/comment/257788#Comment_257788

ouch! That’s a big one. I feel worse for you now than for myself.

eligius

my DW’s wedding rings disappeared a few months ago. Searched thru the house several times & couldnt find them. Then one day she came down the stairs happily wearing the ring. Dont know where she found them but now I keep them until we go out & have her put them on. Still can’t find the rings with kids’ & grandkids’ birthstones. Sigh….

WIGO23

I hear you loud and clear. Vent away! My DH has “misplaced, lost, tossed or otherwise disappeared”two pair of glasses in two months. It is getting expensive. This time I got him a glasses neck strap for the new pair. Fingers crossed that it helps. At least his $4K hearing aids are still with us!😀

rplourde50

https://alzconnected.org/discussion/comment/257817#Comment_257817

ah yes. The glasses. I keep close tabs on them and have backup pairs.

harshedbuzz

Vent away.

Dementia is why we can't have nice things.

Pulling up a chair: Dad broke 2 pair of wireless headphones. He threw away the cable remote when it "broke" (spoiler alert: he'd disconnected the box and TV "because it's all wireless now")

He also bought a new laptop every time forgot his passwords saying, "they don't make 'em like they used to". He had 5 basically unused laptops in his house in MD when I moved him and a desktop in the house in FL. Each of those computers had a different premium security suite on auto-renew totally $1300 annually until I did a deep dive into their finances. Earlier this year, I found a recurring charge for $8.95 on mom's Mastercard and tracked it down to a cell phone insurance policy for a flip phone dad bought in 2005. He's been dead for 6 of those years.

I do have a funny story about strategies to protect valuables. After my aunt died from dementia, her sisters took turns picking piece of her jewelry. Mom selected a sapphire and diamond ring my uncle had gifted for their 60th wedding anniversary. She admired my sapphire engagement ring, so he and I discussed what to look for. When he died 8 years later, it became clear she was in the early stages of dementia. Not long after mom got the ring, we took it to be appraised for insurance purposes. The appraisers face dropped when he looked at it with his loupe— the stones had all been replaced by paste. The platinum setting was still there but the stones were gone. Mom and I looked at each other and burst out laughing. Dementia got her again.

HB

rplourde50

https://alzconnected.org/discussion/comment/257825#Comment_257825

this post has been cathartic for many of us!

jgreen

https://alzconnected.org/discussion/comment/257828#Comment_257828

Amen! Thank you to all for your stories. A good dose of Dopamine!

Milo4455

My biggest oops, learning experience, was when DH (farmer) put gas in the diesel tractor. Hard lesson, but we survive and learn, I guess.

Goodlife2025

I didn't notice my dear wife had unplugged the freezer in our shed. I think she must have done it one day we were doing yard work and she went to get something from the shed and didn't understand what the cord went to????? Lost 1/4 cow, the biggest expensive stinky mess ever. Learning the hard way…..😱 Must laugh or I will cry at the absurdity of this disease.

tboard

https://alzconnected.org/discussion/74532/300-speaker

Mine through away all of his keys and all of the spare house keys. His throwing stuff away phase lasted about three months. I still check the trash before it is hauled away and occasionally find clothing, shoes and even dishes in the trash. I don't think he understands what he is doing.

Take care.