Guardian-family angry at my decisions

Losingmom23

I have been a guardian for 5 years. We make very difficult decisions daily. Family members always think it is their right to tell me my decisions are wrong. I always ask prior for professional advice. My person has not asked for their wedding ring. I have been told to not give valuables to your loved one. Yet family members are literally yelling at me telling me I'm wrong. Help and suggestions

psg712

Is this your family too? Or are you a non-related guardian? In either case, its wise not to give the PWD costly or sentimentally valuable jewelry. Too easy for it to be lost. Does the rest of the family understand how impaired the PWD is?

Sometimes you just can't win when you are the decision maker. If you were to give the wedding ring to your PWD and it was lost, guess who would be blamed? Hang in there and do what you feel is safest for your person.

Colacho10

You are in a challenging spot. Your job as a guardian is to prevent loss and distress, and risking a valuable sentimental item is irresponsible, no matter how much family members argue.

Just don't argue with them or over-explain. Tell them that you must follow the professional advice to secure valuables to protect your person. And don't feel guilty over nothing, you are doing your job

towhee

Lost or stolen for sure. Someone on here, their spouse just threw away a Bose speaker, in the trash can and out the door. If she is asking for it, what is often done is to find several similar pieces of costume jewelry rings. If she is not asking for it do not upset the applecart. To those upset people, say how upset do you think LO would have been if that ring was lost, she had wanted her family to keep it and pass it down. What we did with all items like that was to take a picture, make an inventory list, and let everyone know what was there and generally the safe location where it was kept.