Where do you go for socialization?

Call me Gram

I am thinking it would be helpful for DH and me to do more than just the normal day-to-day. We could benefit from playing cards, or a Bible study, or ping-pong. Our church is full of people who are older than we are, and not really interested in socializing.

I do think we could find purpose in volunteering to help at the local soup kitchen or something, but I'd also love to play cards or get involved in something that will stretch our brains. I think it would help DH, and I would appreciate the interaction.

Any ideas? Suggestions?

Biggles

I initially found socialising very difficult and I was so lonely. My DH has aphasia and it’s very difficult for others to understand anything he says, people generally can’t be bothered. However perseverance prevailed and this is what we do. We got a little dog and take our Schnoodle to the dog park 3 or 4 times a week the same people are there and they are so kind (animal lovers) so I get an extended amount of conversation about everyday normal things, our puppy gets to play and DH gets a certain amount of stimulation. We go to Sailability once a week during the sailing season interacting with other carers. I am on the committee and I am also a skipper so I take compromised clients sailing. Our Committee is very active with fund raising and social days so we get to go out to dinner in a comfortable situation with others who understand. Plus I get the stimulation of meetings and organising functions. I have a small business making fashion bags carried over from a past life so I have something to do when DH is sleeping and on occasion have to meet deadlines which I enjoy. Not sure what the future holds but I too need to be active and busy it keeps the shadow of our troubles at bay. I’ve tried lots of things that haven’t worked just give it a go and don’t give up. Good luck ld love to know what you find and how you are going.

Biggles

JulietteBee

I'd suggest you find another church, one with more activities and diverse ages. I am ill and my DM has Dementia. I keep busy with my church ministries, including helping out at the food pantry. I also find that my city puts out a monthly calendar of things to do. Tomorrow I hope to take my mom to see "One Flew Over the Cukoo's Nest" at one of the city's rec halls.

persevere

Some towns have community centers. If your DH can still play cards it sounds like you have lots of options.

persevere

Noooo - you’re going to take your mom with dementia to see ‘one flew over the cuckoo’s nest’? Lol.

wose

https://alzconnected.org/discussion/comment/262785#Comment_262785

@persevere …2 or 3 years ago I thought the Girl From North Country sounded good since we both liked Bob Dylan. I had no idea that a lady (a main character) in the musical had dementia. DH didn’t get that part at all (thank God) but I was a bit uneasy until i realized he didn’t comprehend. 😳

Chammer

Is there a local senior center where you live? Our local senior center is very active w meals, group exercise activities, and classes.

Call me Gram

Thank you all for your ideas! We're going to try some of your suggestions. I'll keep you posted. :)