Camera advice

rcataldo

Hi I am caring for my aunt who has Alzheimer's and vascular dementia. I have one family member who is trying to go against everything that we are trying to do for my aunt. I had place cameras in her apt ( common areas only) as well as sensors on her doors to obviously keep her safe. WELL her brother told her about the cameras and advised her to climb on the counters to take them down. I now have no way of knowing if she is wandering or leaving the apartment at all. I also cant see if she is ok at night which I would look at cameras if they alert me to motion. She refuses to have anyone live with her and we are struggling to put her in memory care because she is so young and still functional in many areas! Any advice would be appreciated. She obviously will be looking for cameras all the time now and her brother will continue to sabotage anything we do for control.

Jeff H

That's a tough one. Her brother sounds like an a##. He is willfully putting your aunt in a potential dangerous situation. Did your aunt approve of the cameras? Maybe that's his issue. Have you discussed this with him to tell him why you are doing it? Good luck.

H1235

Do you has a DPOA? She may still be functional in many areas, but even having some small problems can lead to dangerous consequences. Forgetting about the bacon may lead to the house burning down. Many with dementia have anosognosia. This is the in ability to recognize their symptoms or limitations. She is probably never going to accept that she needs in home help or that it’s time for Al or mc. The person with the DPOA needs to make that decision for her. She will probably be very angry. Unfortunately that’s just the way it is. While my brother knows mom has dementia, he is completely oblivious to her limitations and needs. The anosognosia allows mom to appear more confident and “with it” than she really is. You have to really pay attention to to notice how bad thing’s are. My brother has also refused to educate himself about dementia. He is surprised and shocked with each new symptom. I would imagine her brother is about like mine. I would forget the cameras and get her into a facility as soon as possible. Be prepared to hear how awful you are for doing that to her.

JulietteBee

I am sorry, but her brother sounds like HE has cognition issues. That is not a suggestion a rational person would make, to have her climb on counter tops to take the cameras down.