Hello

Howaboutnow · August 2023

Denise1847-i agree,,,our world is very isolating. It’s easy to feel like we are alone in this, because in our personal real-life circle of friends/family we are the only one’s doing this and while others are sympathetic, i do believe only those that have walked this themselves have a clue what this life is like. But everyone here gets it in spades 🙏

STNDFRM · August 2023

You're not alone. In the short time I have been here, I feel supported and encouraged.

Lola V · August 2023

https://alzconnected.org/discussion/comment/180146#Comment_180146

I used to believe that the church would be a source of support, until our pastor told DH it would be best if he didn’t come back. It was right after I discovered texts and voicemails from another woman. He knew DH had dementia, but just wanted him gone. We’ve started going to a new church, so I’ll try to get past the negative expectations and make new friends. 🙏🏻

Lola V · August 2023

https://alzconnected.org/discussion/comment/179959#Comment_179959

Thank you! I’m going to move all cleaning supplies to a locking pantry. Goodness, the things I never think of!

M1 · August 2023

Lola I hope your newer church proves more supportive. This journey is hard enough without the naysayers, so--even though you may have wished it otherwise--I say good riddance.

Re the texts and emails: you may have already seen that there are many similar threads, others who have experienced similar things. Hard to know how much the dementia was playing into it, BUT: from here on out, he is at risk for scamming. You may need to think about limiting his phone and internet access, and freeze his credit with all three agencies. If you don't have power of attorney, you need to talk to a certified elder law attorney about getting it. You can always slip his phone into airplane mode (he may not notice), break it, lose, change the wi-fi password without telling him: any and all of these strategies have been used.

Lola V · August 2023

https://alzconnected.org/discussion/comment/180401#Comment_180401

It really is so hard. We even have family members who don’t believe he has dementia. They live hours away and DH only calls them when he’s mentally in a good place, which is rare. I do believe the situation with the other woman is 100% related to FTD and ALZ. His ability to understand that it was wrong is just gone. I’m monitoring him closely now, since the shock has worn off. I’ve let go of the anger as well. Now I’m in the mode of protector!

As for my new church, the pastor and several others have offered to help in any way they can. That means a lot in this journey! 💜