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Good morning

David Hope you don’t get too much rain today.

Marie all those people around. Last year I had to have people driving me around and I know I sure did appreciate it. After a major event like your son-in-law had there are lots of doctors appointments for a month or two I found that out. I agree. The most important thing is being safe. I’m always thankful when I get home safely.

Nice to hear that you’re doing OK this morning Ron. Hope things go easy for you today.

Some of my family is leaving today for my aunt memorial service tomorrow. The others will go tomorrow morning. I’m staying with mom. A lot of the family cannot go due to some medical problems in their family. My uncle and his family are going through a lot right now.

I think my old neighbor moved out totally yesterday. Their trash can is gone, an unfamiliar SUV was there for a little bit late yesterday evening and the outside garage light is on this morning, which is never been on before.

Lorita my car is 12 years old I think and sometimes I still have to look something up.

Take care, everyone

Lorita I can only answer regarding what may be, since I wasn’t there, and did not hear the conversation there’s no way for me to know for sure.

If she goes to the emergency room she will be seen by an emergency room physician normally. He would be the one who would do the initial assessment. From there the patients either discharged or they’re sent to the floor. If she has a family physician more than likely, if it’s like here, they do not go to the hospital

At the hospital, you’re taken care of usually by a hospitalist. When you get to the floor, the hospitalist sees you and then he will consult with whatever specialist you need. Specialist usually do not come down to the emergency room unless a patient has called them and they have told the patient to meet them there. Even then they’re often seen by the emergency room physician first before that specialist gets there just to make sure they don’t need something immediate. The specialist also may tell them to go to the emergency room to be evaluated. They let the emergency room physician decide whether you need to be seen by them or not. When you get to the floor a consult will have to be put in by the hospitalist for the specialist. If they haven’t consulted the specialist, she could ask them to and my experience has been that normally they will. The specialist can come in and say that he has nothing further to add and sign back off, if he decides that he has nothing that he can do at that time. Basically a specialist is not going to do any sort of general care. So this is just been my experience.

Lorita you much be sick with worry. I'm so sorry for you - its such a helpless feeling. I'm thinking its going to be a beautiful day there - time to be outside and in nature. Chat with your girls - they listen and you'll feel a little better.

Sending you a great big TXsized hug.

eagle

I think Mint is spot on. Today is not like 15 years ago.

I do wish Sarah/Todd could get Hospice/pallative care on board. I feel certain they could help her with her pain. I she still planning on the dental work being done? Has she gotten her appointment with the Dr who can provide the IV feeding?

Please tell and Todd that we carry both of them in our hearts.

Ron hope you are able to sleep tonight.

Lorita I understand what Todd is saying. You mentioned that Todd said they have said there’s no more they can do for her. So the doctors apparently have been upfront with her about that . That point comes with many illnesses and when it happens the next step is hospice. Her primary care physician would be the one probably now giving her the majority of her care until she goes on hospice and then the hospice doctor I believe would assume her care.

Everyone is kind of in a bad spot here it seems. Sara is in a lot of pain and the poor thing still wants to get better which is understandable for sure. Todd has to be worn out I would think. He knows what the doctors have said as he shared it with you, and may be more accepting at this point about that then Sara is. I don’t know that I’m just saying it is a possibility. I’ve been in the caregivers shoes twice so far in my life and it is very tiring even when you’re not doing it alone. And it seems like Todd is on his own.

The specialists are probably a little frustrated too because they have told her there’s no more they can do but she still wants to see them. Probably at this point her main physician would be her primary care physician. I can’t remember if she has a primary care physicians she sees on a regular basis or not. When she comes to ER and the ER physician evaluates her, he has access to all her medical records if she is staying in the same health system or if she gave them permission to share like I did so that any doctor I go to at OSU or here at home can see the other hospital records also. So he knows what she’s been told, so he doesn’t really have many options either. If he calls them, they’re probably just going to repeat to him what he already read in the chart. He may call them anyways so that he can tell the patient what they said to help cover him for the decision that he makes. And if a doctor truly can’t do anymore that is what he should say. Just to do things that are never going to help or make matters worse is not the right thing for them to do. If they do something that they know is of no value and could make matters worse then that’s also against the Hippocratic oath. They have to know their limitations also.

If she is seeing a primary care physician it’s probably also very frustrating for him because he doesn’t really have any options other than just caring for her day to day. He has nothing else to offer though, so that has to be very frustrating and hard for him as a physician.

she’s your niece, that you have many fond memories of, and that you helped raise as you’ve told us. So it’s very hard to watch this and to hear her crying and you would like for somebody to fix it. I kind of have those feelings right now about my uncle. He went to the oncologist today and I am so hoping that there is something that they can do to at least make him more comfortable. I was always so thankful for the pain clinic that took care of my sister because they kept her very comfortable and that’s their specialty. It would’ve been so much harder to care for her if she would been in pain and there was nothing you could do about it. It was comforting to me to be able to give her medication’s that helped her rest. And I hope that my uncle is offered that if the ones caring for him right now are not able to relieve his pain.

I’m very sorry Lorita that you are having to go through this.

Please pray the good Lou stays around a couple of days. I had a spell earlier with cold sweat and nauseous, but it passed. Still having to keep gauze in my mouth.

Ron

Good early morning Rockers!

Careful with hot/warm liquids Ron. Glad home health is coming. Continued prayers for all and for @Jo C. .

Busy day planned for today. Work to get the patio in order for Easter. DH mowed yesterday but some of the front pasture was still too wet and he's not happy. Trying to keep him off a lawn mower is proving to be a challenge. He started physical therapy yesterday for his neck and using a zero-turn mower in a rough pasture is not a good thing. But he won't listen. The great Grand is coming so he wants the yard "pretty" for her to have her Easter Egg Hunt.

Speaking of eggs, we are having a "hunt" ourselves. One of the new chickens is an "egg eater", so we are isolating them one by one to find the culprit. If it's not one thing, it's another, right?

Trying to start the month-end bookkeeping work for the Shop so everything will be all tied up with a bow by the time I leave for NYC. Hoping this is the last sales tax I have to file.

Checking the pantry for all the fixin's for Easter. Baked ham, smoked turkey, potato salad, green beans, deviled eggs, relish tray, and some kind of dessert (which I have not decided). I usually have all the food ready before we leave for church so we can eat right after and then have the afternoon to "play" with the Great Grand. Supposed to be a beautiful day Sunday and 80 degrees. I found two vintage egg plates on Marketplace and have to run pick those up this morning. I'll use one Sunday and then gift them both to the daughters.

Well, I have to go clean the kitchen where I left baking dishes soaking overnight. Made butter garlic tilapia crusted with almonds and roasted veggies. I got fresh asparagus out of my front flower bed yesterday!

Have a good day everyone.

I'm still here. I've been responding to some posts from newcomers. Nevertheless, I have a hard time keeping up with all the goings-on of the Rockers here, you all are a busy group! I can't keep up with what to respond to.

I am still trying to prepare my taxes, but first I have to pay April's bills. Plus this is Holy Week, and I'm listening to Biblical messages. And I had to make sure that my cousins in Baltimore were okay, after the horrific bridge collapse. I'm still having trouble sleeping, I'm awake during the night and I sleep in the day. I'm still trying to get back to a regular sleep routine. And I haven't been eating well. My life is a bit out of order right now.

Iris

Good afternoon to all the denizens of Lorita's porch.

I've been enjoying a quiet week with little in the way of mother-stuff. On the plus side, it means I've been getting pesky things done around my house. On the downside, she has too much time to ruminate and come up with nonsense that irritates when I call to touch base with her— two days ago she told me my husband didn't want to go to a party at my niece's house Sunday because he's autistic. He doesn't want to attend a party where he doesn't know anyone but the hosts and he's 40 years older than the other adults and no one talks to him. This is a new line of craziness from her, mostly she talks about how old or fragile he is which makes us both annoyed. DS has to work, so I don't want to leave DH home alone to take her to some party when my niece has offered to Uber her there and back. Poor DH spends entirely too much time home alone while I ferry her hither and yon— it'll be nice to have a smaller holiday just the two of us.

She did get her Christmas present installed— a new chair height toilet with a Toto Washlet Bidet. She's quite impressed. The thing is massive; it dominates her ensuite bathroom. She described it as working kind of like a carwash and all I could think of is when you pay an extra $5 to get the undercarriage wash to get rid of corrosive road salt.

Sandwiches tonight. I feel like I have been cooking and baking all week.
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@Iris L I know what you mean about all the players on this thread. Sometimes I take notes, so I don't confuse people with one another.

@Lorita I am so sorry for Sarah's situation. I know it weighs heavily on you.

@ronald71111 I am sorry the implant procedure was so rough for you. I don't recall my husband complaining at all. Mom didn't either, but she had some serious bruising. I can't speak to my graft procedure hurting— I'd had a lot of lidocaine and the extraction was more traumatic as he had to dig around to get the pieces of fractured root out. The closure of the wound was creepy. I was very disappointed not to get my post that day.

@loveskitties Even I don't do that much medical transport. Mom currently has a dozen medical professionals in play and has been to the ER or orthopedic urgent care 6 times in the last year. I am sick to the teeth of watching HGTV.

@JeriLynn66 Enjoy your Easter Egg hunt. Your meals always sound so good.

HB

Dear friends, just got back from SIL eye doc exam…great news as there was no evidence of problem from the stroke…even his vision had only changed slightly in the last 3 yrs!

One more hoop with the neurologist follow-up on Monday. Am hoping that goes well and he gets released back to work.

We are all thanking everyone for their prayers and for the Good Lord's blessings that things are going so well.

Wishing all better health and only good days.

Hugs, Marie