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    The last mile

    forbarbara
    forbarbara Member Posts: 198
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    I though I was ready for MIL to finish her journey but this is so hard. She’s dying of breast cancer which we chose not to treat. Hospice started morphine a few days ago. I never ever thought I would say this, but thank god for her dementia - she isn’t suffering and has no idea what’s happening to her. Although on some level I believe she’s getting ready to let go, she can go peacefully.
    My husband and I left town Thursday, drove all day to visit family, got the call when we arrived Thursday evening that she was in a steep decline and on morphine. We’re due home Sunday night - I was going to turn around and drive home yesterday but the hospice nurse advised me not to change my plans. She said it would take a few days to adjust the morphine and that MIL is not “actively dying” Yet.

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    • Jeanne C.
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      strength and peace to you and your MIL.

    • midge333
      midge333 Member Posts: 449
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      I am sorry. I hope she dies peacefully and painlessly.

    • cdgbdr
      cdgbdr Member Posts: 128
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      Wishing for comfort and peace for her and you. Agree to trust hospice.

    • fmb
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      Prayers for you, your MiL and your family for a safe journey home and comfort, strength and peace in the days ahead.

    • Jgirl57
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      (((Hugs))) for a peaceful transition.

    • JeriLynn66
      JeriLynn66 Member Posts: 1,012
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      Prayers for you, your family and your dear Mother-in-Law. Peace be with you.

    • Emily 123
      Emily 123 Member Posts: 872
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      Prayers for all of you. I'm glad that she's comfortable. Perhaps she chose a time when you both weren't nearby to begin this new transition.

    • GothicGremlin
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      @forbarbara I'm so sorry. I hope when she lets go it's peaceful and pain-free. And I agree about hospice - trust them.

    • SDianeL
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      so sorry. Hugs

    • harshedbuzz
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      @forbarbara

      I'm thinking of you and yours today.

      HB

    • Carl46
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      I remember watching my father die of cancer, and when the doctors told my mother it was time to let him go. I am so sorry.

    • --Rebecca--
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      May her transition be peaceful. Wishing you all the best, most gentle outcome.

    • TrumpetSwan
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      Forbarbara - Sending you thoughts, prayers and the strength of lions. I am sorry. I am sure you have been a comfort to her and to those around you.

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