One day and the arguing has already begun
So Mom died yesterday.
I told my siblings I was inviting my step siblings over to select anything and everything they wanted from mom’s apartment in assisted living. After all it was my step-dad’s too until he died in February. The will says everything is divided six ways. I was mom’s POA and I’m the executor of the will. One step-sibling replied he didn’t want anything - haven’t heard from the other two. None of the three have expressed any condolences or any sadness.
My two full siblings are out of state, aren’t coming home for the service and have said they don’t want anything from the apartment. Plus I wasn’t willing to pay to ship or move furniture across the USA. I will donate whatever my step-siblings don’t take.My spouse, son and I spent time today tossing trash, open jars, tubes of cream, etc, and other unusable items from the apartment.
What’s the arguing about? There’s a joint checking account, in my mom’s and my name. As a joint checking account, it’s not legally part of the estate. I’m going to treat it as it is and divide it six ways once the bills are paid. My sister asked ( via text) how much was in it. Now my sister is mad because a) I texted her that I was dividing it six ways, not just three ways and she thinks I should cut out my step-siblings b) I texted her that mom wanted my step-siblings included, and c) if it’s not part of the estate, it’s actually legally mine to decide what to do with. She knew my name was on the account all along.
She only spoke to my mom once a year. She has no idea what my mom wanted but thinks she does and that I should have told her what mom wanted earlier.I’m venting here- it’s really hard to control my language. She has no idea what I’ve been doing for 5 years or what the last couple weeks have been like. Or what our mom looked like these last couple weeks. I haven’t answered her phone calls today because … well, just because.