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nikki1040028
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Hi there my name is Nicole I am new to this group. I have been living/taking care of my 71 year old father for four years now. I am in the process of trying to sell his home to afford a memory care. I need to get my life back I have kids i still work 36 hours a week. This has been incredibly challenging. I do it all in my own. My daughter in law watches him while I'm at work or need to run an errands. My son and his wife live with us as well as my 14 year old son. My dad can't read he can't remember how to work the roku remote. He has gone down hill incredibly fast in 4 years.. he is also insulin dependent with high blood pressure as well. So I'm looking for support understanding and a place to vent.

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  • sandwichone123
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    Welcome! Talk to an elder law attorney if you haven't done so yet. It's important to make sure that you manage selling the house in such a way that he will qualify for Medicaid if needed down the road. Once you're dealing with dementia, things are so expensive that a lawyer visit is cheap insurance.

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    Welcome to the group. Nicole. I hope things go smoothly with your house sale. This is a great place to vent, and to gain insight. The tip about visiting a lawyer sounds like good advice.

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    Please forgive me if I have misunderstood...are you locking him in a room at night? Without you or a cognizant caregiver available? I think this would be considered imprisonment or even abusive, even if you are doing it to keep him from wandering. If nothing else, very dangerous in case of a fire, gas leak or similar emergency.

    I sympathize with your frustration. It doesn't sound safe for them to be unsupervised at night or daytime.

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DH = Dear Husband
DW= Dear Wife, Darling Wife
LO = Loved One
ES = Early Stage
EO = Early Onset
FTD = Frontotemporal Dementia
VD = Vascular Dementia
MC = Memory Care
AL = Assisted Living
POA = Power of Attorney
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