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I’m Not OK But It’s All Gonna Be Alright…

SDianeL
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edited December 21 in Caring For a Spouse or Partner

song by Jelly Roll for those struggling and especially those in Stage 8 💜

https://m.youtube.com/watch?v=Qop5XLgwkNc

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  • Karen711
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    Not in stage 8 but I get it!!! Sending you a Holiday Hug!
    Love, Karen

  • charley0419
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    the words are chilling but so true

  • fmb
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    @SDianeL

    Thank you so much for posting this. I'm having a very rough day today and really needed to hear this. Also forwarded it to my very dear friend who is struggling after losing his wife to covid two years ago.

    ((hugs)) to all who need them today.

  • Biggles
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    Thank you for this inspirational posting not sure if it makes me feel better or worse a bit sad, it is nice to know that I’m not alone and it will be ok. I’m sitting outside listening to the birds we have just finished breakfast and my darling DH has fallen asleep yet again, hasn’t had medication yet or finished his coffee or oj. I met a lady at our dementia coffee group who said her DH just fell asleep one afternoon and didn’t wake up, is this a common happening? It sounds so peaceful.

  • Iris L.
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    Thanks for posting.

  • Jgirl57
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    I have seen Jelly Roll a few times on TV specials and have come to enjoy his performances . He truly sings from the heart

  • Quilting brings calm
    Quilting brings calm Member Posts: 2,557
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    @Biggles My MIL unexpectedly died in her sleep. She looked very peaceful. My FIL also died in his sleep- but I didn’t see him before the funeral home removed him.

    I can really relate to the words of this song. It’s how I get through my days. There just been so much for so long. It’s not that I feel a lot of sadness for mom’s passing. still relieved she’s no longer suffering. However it’s odd not to be going to the AL, not call her. To think that I’m an orphan( at the age of 66). Are adults orphans?

  • fmb
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    https://alzconnected.org/discussion/comment/231728#Comment_231728

    I fervently pray that DH dies in his sleep; that his heart just gives out.

    Yes, adults are orphans. In our relationship with our parents, we are still their children, whether we are 6 or 66. My father died of ALZ in 2019; my mother will probably be dead from ALZ/heart failure within a year. I'm 64, and yes, I will be an orphan.

    Another factor to consider is that you have lost the part of your life that revolved around your mother's care and going to the ALF and the relationships you had with the staff there. I know I am going to miss our hospice team and certain staff members at DH's ALF very much when he dies and I no longer have a reason to go there. I will also have to find things to do to fill up my suddenly empty time. Another level of grief.

  • fmb
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    https://alzconnected.org/discussion/comment/231735#Comment_231735

    I am so very sorry for your loss.

  • SDianeL
    SDianeL Member Posts: 1,038
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    https://alzconnected.org/discussion/comment/231735#Comment_231735

    so sorry for your loss. Cherish the memories. 💜

Commonly Used Abbreviations


DH = Dear Husband
DW= Dear Wife, Darling Wife
LO = Loved One
ES = Early Stage
EO = Early Onset
FTD = Frontotemporal Dementia
VD = Vascular Dementia
MC = Memory Care
AL = Assisted Living
POA = Power of Attorney
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