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SusiAnn
SusiAnn Member Posts: 2
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Hi, I'm new here. Mom is in midstage of Alz, living with my DH and me for 6 weeks now. Doing okay with everything so far but the questions (every minute or so for a good part of the day) are wearing on us. They don't vary much and writing down the answers for her doesn't seem to help for long. She usually finds something in the written answer to further question us about, and just having the written explanations seems to trigger her to begin the loop again, throughout the day, when she sees the papers.

I understand she's in a new environment and her life is completely different now-- so thanks for listening, as it helps to get this off my chest-- also wondering if this is common and also some suggestions to help.

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  • SusanB-dil
    SusanB-dil Member Posts: 1,361
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    Hi SusiAnn - welcome to 'here', but sorry for the reason. Yes, unfortunately, this is very common. And it sure can make you weary. No, writing it down won't help for long.

    maybe you could get some respite from that in finding an adult day center for her for a day or three a week.

  • SusiAnn
    SusiAnn Member Posts: 2
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    Thanks SusanB, we're slowly coming to the realization that we need to take healthy breaks from my dear mom, and thanks for listening.

  • samz429
    samz429 Member Posts: 3
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    taking healthy breaks from dear mom sounds great.ni would like to do that but not sure how to"

  • JM27
    JM27 Member Posts: 154
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    Hi SusiAnn,


    welcome sorry you are here. I moved my LO in with me 9 months ago. And the questions don’t stop he just finds a different question to ask depending on what’s possibly going on in his mind.

    It is very very important that you take time away for yourself.

    Good luck to you.

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DW= Dear Wife, Darling Wife
LO = Loved One
ES = Early Stage
EO = Early Onset
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AL = Assisted Living
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