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Moment of Being Overwhelmed with WHY?

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  • sixcats
    sixcats Member Posts: 24
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    edited April 1

    I get it. My BH got diagnosed at age 59. Six years ago. Also got COVID which set him back a million years. Today I was feeding him his puréed food at the memory care facility he’s in. He’s now almost 66. He may not make it to his birthday in May. What can I say? They call it the long goodbye. Yup, by the end of this journey. I was suicidal at more than one point. Got on medication that helped. Wow, we loved each other so much for 24 years. Unconditional love. How fortunate I was to meet and fall in love. He was the best partner I could have imagined. Now, I need to do all of the “end of life” stuff. Painful and overwhelming. All alone with our cats. May God bless you.

  • Russinator
    Russinator Member Posts: 157
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    ((HUGS))

  • Marla13
    Marla13 Member Posts: 18
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    It is good to get away if you can. We understand completely. ❤️

  • Arrowhead
    Arrowhead Member Posts: 387
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    I began keeping a journal about my wife's progress about 6 months after she was diagnosed. My first entry in February two years ago began like this: "For the first time since I started this journal 6 years ago, this entry isn’t about Colleen; it’s about me." I poured out my heart and soul about the hardships I was enduring and my, not always positive, responses to them. I spelled out everything I was thinking and feeling. I cried as I wrote it. Sometimes, even a man, needs a good cry to help release stress. I hope you don’t feel guilty about running out like that; it’s what you needed to do at that moment. I hope you find ways to cope and relieve your stress.

  • elainechem
    elainechem Member Posts: 187
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    I have found that in-person support groups are invaluable in dealing with disease. You find out that you are not alone and you are not crazy. The Alzheimer’s Association website can put you in touch with groups in your area.

    https://www.alz.org/help-support/community/support-groups

Commonly Used Abbreviations


DH = Dear Husband
DW= Dear Wife, Darling Wife
LO = Loved One
ES = Early Stage
EO = Early Onset
FTD = Frontotemporal Dementia
VD = Vascular Dementia
MC = Memory Care
AL = Assisted Living
POA = Power of Attorney
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