The Cavalry Is Not Coming: 9 Year Edition

Your comment about having to be THE one who has to remember everything really struck home. This is the new wrinkle here. DH has always been the one to handle the taxes, keeping the budget, making all the major financial decisions. I helped with the taxes this year but it was obvious as we did them together, that he not capable of doing them any longer. After paying the IRS what we owed, he asked several times if we had paid them. I shouldn't have been, but I was shocked that he couldn't remember something so critical even a few days after it was done. Ditto on several other bugetary (sp?) big items. I realized a couple of days ago that I have to remember everything for both of us, large and small things. There is only me to remember. That is such a big responsibility.

Thank you Bill. I’m going to print your post and commit it to memory. I think this is going to help me let go of some of the bitterness and resentments I’ve been nursing towards family and friends who don’t give a whit about what’s going on under our roof. For my sanity I need to start being the boss and allow others to live their lives. The whole world can’t stand still just because my life has been thrown into a meat grinder. Thank you for the clarity.