Very Regrettable Appt.

oh wose , how terrible! They should never recommend a driving test in my opinion . The test should be more for if someone can physically drive after an injury or accident , not when they have dementia . Will your (his) primary care doctor be any help to you ?

I am so sorry for you. I shake my head at the lack of knowledge the medical profession has about this disease. We had the same with my mother in law. The Dr’s told us we were trying to put her in care to get her money etc etc. if possible if you have enough energy I’d go home bring for a new Dr that will at least listen. Hugs

That sounds horrible. I am sorry that you had this experience. It's hard enough to be a spouse watching the decline of your LO without someone in the medical field blaming you. Get a new doctor ASAP.

Wrong doctor/practice. A yelp review wouldn't be a bad idea if only to warn others.

Given what you've shared here, you would do better with a geri psych. If the wait to be seen is long, you may need to wait for him to have another episode and get him transported to a geri psych unit via the ED. In your shoes, I would use my phone to record this behavior to back up the history you will be called upon to give.

I am always stunned by how little some docs know about the realities of dementia. When we brought dad for the medical exam required for placement, placement being a decision not shared with dad, he brightly described hospitality-model AL to us with dad present as if we were blithering idiots unaware of that as an option. I sent the doc a note on the patient portal describing dad's murder-suicide ideation and the need to protect mom later. At an appointment with mom, he shared that dad always seemed fine during his in-office visits.

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Don't get me started on neuro drs. They make grandiose conclusions based on a 15 minute session without looking at the patient's history. If it weren't for the fact that DH relies on the neuro for medication prescriptions, I would stop seeing him.

My wife had two neurologists as the first one left for another facility. Both were very competent. I also sent letters before each visit, and they were obviously read. I was listened to, and all my concerns were addressed. My wife was not on any medication, so after the last visit, he told me that I need not bring her back, as there was no more that he could do. Of course, of problems arose in the future, I could still make an appointment for her. I'm sorry for those who have not been so blessed.

My LO will face the task of renewing his driver license in December 🤦‍♀️he was contacted by DMV(California) to take a driver test. He passed but I sold his car and only I drive now. Anytime he talks about driving he says he has a license. My GP does a great job helping me out when new situations come up. In December he has to take the written and driving, he will never pass the written so hopefully this end the driving situation! FYI when he went to take the last driver test I made him go alone. He got lost, there is no rhyme or reason to this survival mission we are all on. Stick to a good GP, Neurologist just aren’t interested unless they can put you in a useless trial. Our Neurologist told us here’s some flyers on treatments, they probably won’t help you but maybe someone down the line. I fired him!!!