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The Long Goodbye

CampCarol
CampCarol Member Posts: 213
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My beautiful, sweet husband passed away a little while ago. I was sleeping, and I don’t know how I will ever forgive myself for not being with him. I have to comfort myself knowing that he is free from this awful disease; the pain and confusion. He was the best thing that ever happened to me, and I know this world is a better place for him having been here. Not sure what I am going to do now, but I know he would want me to be strong. Thank you all for listening, your candor, brief moments of humor, and most of all just for being here. This forum is truly a Godsend, and I am so grateful.

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  • Marla13
    Marla13 Member Posts: 30
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    So sorry for your loss. He is resting easy now. May you find some peace. Sending hugs.

  • JeriLynn66
    JeriLynn66 Member Posts: 1,128
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    Carol, I'm so sorry for your loss. Your sweet husband is at peace now. Sending peace to you.

  • Beachfan
    Beachfan Member Posts: 815
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    I am sorry. I wish you peace and comfort in the future. You will smile again. 🙏🏻🙏🏻

  • marier
    marier Member Posts: 98
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    Hugs and more hugs to you as you begin stage 8. Please give yourself love, time grieve and remember as you continue your life journey.

  • trottingalong
    trottingalong Member Posts: 649
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    I’m sorry for your loss. Give yourself some grace.

  • cdgbdr
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    I'm so sorry for your loss.

  • ladyzetta
    ladyzetta Member Posts: 1,199
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    Dear Carol.

    Iam sorry for your loss, may your DH rest in peace. You were with him in thoughts. And yes HB, is so right, they will often wait till you step away. My DH waited till his kids left the room, then he passed. Hugs and prayers 🙏 being sent to you. Zetta

  • Jgirl57
    Jgirl57 Member Posts: 646
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    So very sorry for your loss ; I think he knew you were ok because you were resting. You are correct, he is free from this horrible disease. Hugs and peace to you and your family.

  • Kat63
    Kat63 Member Posts: 145
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    So Sorry. May your wonderful memories give you strength and comfort as you enter stage 8.

  • Dio
    Dio Member Posts: 814
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    My condolences. Be comforted that his suffering, and yours, are over. May you find peace and joy again and live fully.

  • White Crane
    White Crane Member Posts: 1,015
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    Carol, I’m so sorry for the loss of your dear husband. Praying you find peace and comfort knowing his long journey has ended.

  • Bunny whisperer
    Bunny whisperer Member Posts: 34
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    Sorry for your loss. Praying for you. Give yourself time to grieve and take care of yourself 💜.

  • Anna2022
    Anna2022 Member Posts: 227
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    I'm sorry to hear this news. I hope you find peace and comfort in the coming days. You did a great job taking care of him!!

  • Jazzma
    Jazzma Member Posts: 190
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    Camp Carol, I think he knew that you had been keeping close to him and were still nearby.

    My grandmother used to say that 'it's not what you eat between Christmas and New Years that makes you fat, it's what you eat between New Years and Christmas.' What happened in the last minutes of his life is not what matters — it's what happened for all the time that you were together.

    Sending you love and hugs, wishing you peace and comfort. I started Stage 8 two days ago. We will move forward together.

  • hiya
    hiya Member Posts: 127
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    I’m so sorry for your loss. I can tell you loved and cared for him deeply. Prayers for comfirt

  • SDianeL
    SDianeL Member Posts: 1,686
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    I’m so sorry for your loss. His suffering is over. Take time to rest and cherish the beautiful memories you made together. Sending love and hugs. 💜

  • Karen711
    Karen711 Member Posts: 144
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    I’m so sorry for your loss Carol!
    sending hugs!💜

  • GothicGremlin
    GothicGremlin Member Posts: 1,091
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    Carol, I'm so sorry about the loss of your DH. He is at peace now and free from this horrible disease.

  • Goodlife2025
    Goodlife2025 Member Posts: 65
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    Carol keeping you and Jazzma in my prayers over these days of landing in stage 8. May you both have peace in the days ahead.

  • easy23
    easy23 Member Posts: 258
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    I wish you peace of mind in the coming days. May your DH rest in peace.

  • midge333
    midge333 Member Posts: 522
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    I am sorry for your loss. Please be kind to yourself.

  • CindyBum
    CindyBum Member Posts: 439
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    I am so sorry for you loss of your sweet DH. You provided all of the loving support he needed to pass peacefully. What a gift to him.

    xoxo

  • Russinator
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    ((HUGS))

  • psg712
    psg712 Member Posts: 505
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    Very sorry for your loss.

  • ghphotog
    ghphotog Member Posts: 703
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    So sorry.

  • Russinator
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    ((HUGS))

Commonly Used Abbreviations


DH = Dear Husband
DW= Dear Wife, Darling Wife
LO = Loved One
ES = Early Stage
EO = Early Onset
FTD = Frontotemporal Dementia
VD = Vascular Dementia
MC = Memory Care
AL = Assisted Living
POA = Power of Attorney
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