My husband isn’t diagnosed yet

Always wanted to meet a saint! 😇) Glad that is you - at least sometimes (ha, ha)

welcome. Repeating questions is very common. Read the book “The 36 Hour Day” which helped me after my husbands diagnosis. Does he have an appointment with a doctor? Meet with an elder care attorney right away to get your legal affairs in order. DPOA etc. We understand what you’re going through. Come back often.

We have a dr appointment, they seem to be dismissive. We’re using the VA, my husband is 100%,

Thank you, yesterday and the holiday weekend was stressful he was agitated most of the time. I was gone about 3-4 hours today fix my phone and he doesn’t appear to have a self calming mechanism, or skills. I made dinner, and he was agitated/abuse so I left called the 800 number for how to de-esculate the viterol (sorry spelling). I was gone about 2.5 more hours. Fell asleep at 6:30 exhausted from the emotional trauma. I was awaken at 8:30 with severe leg cramps - I came down and treated myself. My name is not “F..K B…ch”. The stroke affected his brain not his body. I will see if the college library has the book, again thank you.

I think repetitive questions is a relatively early symptom.

My husband is also rated 100 percent by the VA. Get paperwork in for Aid and Assistance at home that is covered by the VA. His primary care physician will fill it out.
This will cover in home care for your husband. Request approval for transportation as well. They will provide door to service for any VA or community care appointments for your husband. You are also alloted a lifetime $6,500 to cover any improvements to your home for your husband’s care. The social worker should inform you of everything that is available. Get an appointment with a VA or community care neurologist to get a diagnosis. The VA uses information from the primary care physician and neurologist to determine level of care that is necessary.

just write down every one of his behaviors. Keep a running list. Do not show your husband. I sent the updated list monthly to all my DH’s doctors. The VA Neurologist ordered a 4 hour Neuro Psyche test. After they consulted each other that’s when they made the diagnosis. Dementia-Probably Vascular. 18 months later after I sent his behavior list the Neurologist looked at the last brain scan again and changed the diagnosis to Alzheimer’s-Posterior Cortical Atrophy. Google 7 stages of dementia and look for a chart that lists behaviors. The behaviors can overlap stages or not appear until later but it will give you a general idea.