65 days in memory care

I haven't posted in a while, but I thought I would tell the story of my DH's adjustment to MC and ask you all a question. He had a very rough time for the first three weeks, then slowly began to adjust and to take part in activities which has progressed to him being fairly happy by six weeks or so. One of the reasons he's been happier lately is that he has developed a "girl friend"—-that occurred about two or two and a half weeks ago. I was surprised that it happened so soon. I have been of the opinion that having a girl friend could help him feel less lonely and relieve some of my ongoing guilt over placement—and my sadness when he told me how lonely he was. I've been friendly to her and have gotten over my first sense of rejection since DH is still so delighted when I show up. She's a short grandmotherly women who is talkative and nice. They wander the halls and hold hands. The staff frequently finds something "she has to do" when I am there so DH and I can have some time without her.Yesterday was an odd day and harkened back to an earlier time. DH was glad to see me but became sad about his life during our lunch out and after I left he was upset and had an "incident" with one of the male staff members who was delivering clean clothes to his room. The staff member didn't leave when he asked him to and he tried to push him out the door.

My question is't about to the update above but is about our 50th anniversary coming up on the 30th of this month. I have been thinking about taking him for an overnight to a nice hotel. It would be mostly for me I know, but I think this might be the last anniversary I could do that with him. I know he would enjoy parts of it…but do you think it would be too disorienting for him to stay overnight and then be returned the next day to his MC environment? I'm asking you all because you are the 'experts'…I know every PWD is different, but does anyone have experience in this sort of thing? What should I ask myself? Am I just being selfish?