Dealing with BM Clean up!

JC5 · September 22

Being straightforward and honest here so …DH had a BM accident. After he took his clothes off and sat on his bed with his dirty bum he did get in the shower. Went in to get his clothes and bedspread to wash and almost got sick from the awful smell! I had to leave his room. I felt bad for asking him to bring the stuff down to the washing machine, but I just couldn’t do it. How does everyone handle this?

harshedbuzz · September 22

@JC5

I am so sorry. This is a dealbreaker for many loving caregivers.

Cheap foam shaving cream from the dollar store can help mask the odor and make cleanup a bit less onerous. Stink balm can also help.

https://stinkbalmodorblocker.com/

Odoban is great for cleaning things like fabrics and flooring.

https://www.odoban.com/

HB

Chammer · September 22

Many health care professionals use a face mask w fragrance/odor killer sprayed inside. The odor ban product should work for that and the mask will mostly cover your face which could be showing great displeasure at the offensive smell.

tonyac2 · September 22

This is an awful task, cleaning up after a BM. I’ve been doing this for quite awhile as my husband is immobile and in a lift while using the bedside commode. I like Thieves Spray. It’s a little spendy, but does an excellent job of eliminating foul odors. On the laundry end of it, I put a cup of vinegar and a cup of baking soda in with the detergent pod. This combo takes out the odors.

Chance Rider · September 22

JC5, thank you for bringing this up. We’re not “there” yet but I want to be prepared if/when the time comes. One thing I simply cannot stand is the smell of skunk. Living in the country we frequently experience the strong odor of a nearby skunk. Weird maybe but Vick’s VapoRub dabbed under my nose is very effective.

Cat K · September 22

The fecal incontinence will be the thing that breaks me in two. Yesterday DH had very loose stools. Several times I had to change and clean him. The breaking point was when he had it all over himself, down his leg and into his bedroom shoe. Cleaning him up and getting him into the shower—he balked and resisted and said he didn't need a shower—was the worst thing I've gone through so far. My mantra used to be "as long as he knows who I am I can handle anything." That no longer applies. Every day I hate to get out of bed and face the day, not knowing what horrible experience I'll have. I take care of two dogs, five cats, and DH with mixed dementia, who is probably stage 6, and I don't know how much longer I can bare it. No support system other than palliative care. How do we do this day after day after day?

JC5 · 12:43AM

oh boy thank you all for your responses! Wasn’t sure if I should post this, but I was so overwhelmed and hoped this board would help. You came through as usual and the some! Thank you 😘

Chammer · 1:29AM

@ladytexan created the Blue Glove Award for these very circumstances. 😁

Dealing with BM Clean up!

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