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It’s finally happening. Placing hubby in MC

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  • Katcat
    Katcat Member Posts: 108
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    thanks very much my head knows it’s the right decision and as long as Insurance lasts I have no intention of having him come back except for holidays and such. I’m just so worried about how he will react sleeping in new bed etc.

  • Palmetto Peg
    Palmetto Peg Member Posts: 309
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    I was advised not to bring my DH back to our apartment for anything. He asks to come home a lot, and if I brought him here, it would just make it harder. Be sure to ask the staff working with him what they think about that. My DH is now in a wheelchair and doesn't leave the facility at all. Family has to come to him. I took him to his daughter's house a few times before he had to be in the wheelchair, and was very uneasy and asking to leave after just a short time. He now has his comfort zone and we don't leave it. My DH never said a word about being in a different bed, but everyone is different. Good luck and stay strong!

  • Katcat
    Katcat Member Posts: 108
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    thx. Yes I’m going to see what faculty says about taking him home. My plan was for thanksgiving but that’s only if he can handle it.

  • harshedbuzz
    harshedbuzz Member Posts: 5,947
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    @Katcat

    Thanksgiving may be too soon. And it may be a challenge if you have guests as well. How would you handle it if he was resistant to returning to the facility once he was home for a few hours?

    MCFs will typically host a friends & family celebration around any major holidays. Dad's had some kind of festivity every month. They're usually a few days prior.

    HB

  • Katcat
    Katcat Member Posts: 108
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    yes exactly. I’m going to see what facility says. Thx

  • tboard
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    I brought my mother to MC while they were serving lunch. She was happy to eat while I unpacked her stuff and brought it to her room. I left while she was still eating.

Commonly Used Abbreviations


DH = Dear Husband
DW= Dear Wife, Darling Wife
LO = Loved One
ES = Early Stage
EO = Early Onset
FTD = Frontotemporal Dementia
VD = Vascular Dementia
MC = Memory Care
AL = Assisted Living
POA = Power of Attorney
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