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I Want To Live With Someone Else

CindyBum
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edited October 28 in Caring For a Spouse or Partner

My spouse with nearly complete aphasia has managed to pull out that full sentence for a couple of weeks now. She is soooooo sick of me being her caregiver. I now represent the person controlling her life and keeping her from driving to go see friends, etc. Which I am, though I'm providing her a safe, loving and comfortable environment. In my eyes anyway. To her, I have become her personal Nurse Ratched. Maybe I need to go buy an old school nurses hat to complete that picture. Halloween costume idea!

Watching her do circles in the driveway right now and having a little vent. Thanks for listening.

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  • ronda b
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    Know the feeling. My DH has lost weight . I keep trying to feed him,protein shakes anything he wants. Take h out to eat etc.. he keeps saying I'm force feeding him.

  • harshedbuzz
    harshedbuzz Member Posts: 5,874
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    I am so sorry.

    HB

    PS The bit about the old school nurse's cap made me giggle.

  • trottingalong
    trottingalong Member Posts: 805
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    Oh Boy, I’m sorry. A good scream might help you. 😱

  • wose
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    , I’m so so with you. There is so little joy anymore. My DH hates me and tells me that every day. It’s so hard to tolerate. It’s been so long since I’ve heard a kind word or experienced joy. I was thinking today how different I am now. I’m no longer the fun filled, always laughing, positive person I was and I hate it. I want my old self back. The constant criticism and digs take a toll. I don’t want to just get through every day, I want to feel alive again, but we know that’s impossible on most days. So for now, I’ll dust myself off and go find and put on that Nurse Rachted outfit but with the usual smile and “ yes dear, that’s sounds great.” Thanks for the chuckle from one beach to another😂

  • ronda b
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    I think that will be my saying now. Im nurse rachet ot a caregiver

    😀

  • annie51
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    So sorry Cindy! I never thought of myself as a control freak but sure turned into one in DH’s eyes. I chuckled at the Nurse Ratchet costume. 😉 Hope tomorrow is better.

  • wose
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    https://alzconnected.org/discussion/comment/257184#Comment_257184

    I would love to try that, but he often thinks I am his Ex-wife……sometimes I think .. if only 🤭

  • Karen711
    Karen711 Member Posts: 192
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    Viva to all the Nurse Ratchets!!
    Yep, often I can’t leave the slightest mess (even in the middle of meal prep) in the kitchen or my wife (with aphasia) will come along and demand “now who left this @rap s@!t here like this!” A perfectly flowing sentence, clearest thing she’s said all day. Of course it’s just us and the dogs….

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DH = Dear Husband
DW= Dear Wife, Darling Wife
LO = Loved One
ES = Early Stage
EO = Early Onset
FTD = Frontotemporal Dementia
VD = Vascular Dementia
MC = Memory Care
AL = Assisted Living
POA = Power of Attorney
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