Adult day care

Welcome. You might check with your local commission on aging.

In my community there are newsletters that you can find at senior centers or doctors' offices, maybe grocery stores, that list all kinds of resources.

Finding even one day a week of adult day care can make a profound difference for your father, and the fact that you are thinking about this now rather than waiting until he is completely depleted shows real foresight. The best starting point is the Eldercare Locator at eldercare.acl.gov or by calling 800-677-1116, Monday through Friday, 8am to 9pm Eastern, since they maintain updated lists of adult day programs in your specific area and can help you figure out what your mother might qualify for based on her stage and needs. The Alzheimer's Association also has a free 24-hour helpline at 800-272-3900, available around the clock 365 days a year, that can connect you with local resources including adult day programs that specialize in memory care, which tend to be better equipped for someone in late mid-stage than a general adult day center. When you are evaluating programs it is worth asking specifically whether staff are trained in dementia care, what the daily structure looks like, and how they handle behavioral episodes, since a well-matched program will not only give your father a genuine break but will also give your mother meaningful engagement and socialization during the hours she is there. Starting with just one day a week is a wise approach since it gives your mother time to adjust gradually rather than feeling suddenly dropped into an unfamiliar environment, and many families find that once the transition settles the person with dementia actually looks forward to going.

I hope these resources or references can help:

https://hopebridge.care/adult-day-care-finding-relief-when-you-are-the-only-caregiver/

https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Adult_daycare_center

https://www.aarp.org/caregiving/basics/memory-care-alzheimers-dementia/