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My mom just said she is the most comfortable she has been in her life

Anonymousjpl123
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I know this won’t last. She came home for a visit. We’re hanging out on the couch watching Yule log after a meal I cooked (poorly). She is on hospice, needs an aide 6 hours a day, and hardly says full words. But for just one moment…I asked if she was comfortable and she looked at me and said “believe it or not, I’m comfortable for the first time in my life.” I know she may not mean it. I know it’s passing. But what a thanksgiving gift.

this journey is so painful 99% of the time. I am grateful for just that moment.

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  • psg712
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    A beautiful gift. Don't analyze it, just savor it! Special moments like that are rare treasures. I'm so glad for you.

  • ARIL
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    A moment to cherish for sure!

  • SDianeL
    SDianeL Member Posts: 2,596
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    🙏💜

  • JulietteBee
    JulietteBee Member Posts: 316
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    https://alzconnected.org/discussion/74702/my-mom-just-said-she-is-the-most-comfortable-she-has-been-in-her-life

    I love that for you.🧡

    Happy Thanksgiving!

  • MissingMom
    MissingMom Member Posts: 4
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    My mom is currently in a MC facility. It’s a great place for her. She’s the most active out of all the patients that are in MC. She doesn’t initiate a conversation, or add to the discussion. But you can tell she’s listening to what is being said. We also brought her home Thanksgiving day, and really enjoyed. The problem is she never wants to go back. She always wants to stay with us. This is killing my father. He gets emotional everytime he leaves. He is not much of a talker, so when he goes to see her, they just kind of sit. He said it’s so sad to be there. He talks about being lonely, but won’t get out of the house. Help!!!! I feel like both parents are slipping away. I could really use some advice about this.

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DH = Dear Husband
DW= Dear Wife, Darling Wife
LO = Loved One
ES = Early Stage
EO = Early Onset
FTD = Frontotemporal Dementia
VD = Vascular Dementia
MC = Memory Care
AL = Assisted Living
POA = Power of Attorney
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