New Stubborn Behaviors

I mentioned in a previous post that my DH was recently in a Memory Care facility for 30 days of respite care while I recovered from a broken ankle. He’s been home for 3 weeks now. Since home, he’s experiencing some VERY stubborn and rude behaviors and refusing to cooperate with necessary care. I don’t know if it’s the transition from home to facility to home. He also was taken off Memantine recently (slowly stepped down over a period of weeks). The doctor warned that it can cause irritability if stopping the drug too quickly but he’s been off of it for a couple weeks now. So I don’t know what to think of this new behavior. Maybe just another symptom of decline? He has always been very cooperative with me and his aide with whatever we needed to do for him. He and I talked about our “teamwork” in his care. For example, he lays down on his bed fully dressed and refuses to budge to stand/sit when I need to change his disposables and get him ready for bed. A couple nights ago he took his shoes off then wrapped his arms tightly around them and refused to let go. So he slept with them. Last night he refused to let me get him out of his jeans and wet disposables at bedtime. I started to gently remove his glasses and he grabbed my wrists very tightly. How do you all handle this behavior? I usually end up backing off then coming back later and engaging in over-the-top baby talk to him. It’s exhausting. I’m struggling to repress my anger.