Need help with confirming stages

I’ve found the staging tool helpful as it shows all the different kinds of behaviors so that when I see one, I know it’s most likely disease progression rather than something else. I’ve also been able to look back and realize my dad was probably already at least stage 3 when things took a turn, and I didn’t even realize it. It’s a helpful guide is how I see it.

My mom is about this stage. She is in a nursing home. Every person with dementia is a bit different. So concerns one family may have will be different than another. The dbat give a rough age equivalence. You might use that as a guide for how much care she needs. Remember that she is aging backwards and things she could safely do a week ago are not necessarily safe for her today. It might be a little early to start clearing out all the chemicals, but still I would keep an eye on her if she prepares herself a simple lunch and watch her around the stove. I don’t know how steady she is on her feet, but she should not shower while alone in the house. Being left home alone at this stage is iffy. That’s honestly a whole other post. Even if she is fine alone now, that would be true for long. If you have any thoughts of moving her to a facility at some point keep in mind they can have a waiting list. Is there something she really wants to do but isn’t safe (pull weeds in the garden, go for a walk alone)? I would keep a close eye on her to make sure this doesn’t happen. Anosognosia can make things rough. Make sure her dirty clothes are making it to the hamper. Does she shower regularly? You should probably keep track of how often she showers and give her reminders as needed. This can end up being a big thing. I was surprised that the doctor said 1 shower a week is acceptable. There are a lot of little things you might not even think about. My mom got a new toothbrush every 6 months when I took her to the dentist for a check up. When we moved her I found she hadn’t swapped out her old toothbrush in a long long time (I really dropped the ball there). She may need help trimming her nails (hands and feet). Are you managing her finances? If not it’s time. I would limit her access to money by giving her $20 or a preloaded credit card. My mom has very poor judgement in the store (I guess anywhere). It’s best not to point out her symptoms or limitations. Do what you need to do for her without telling her or tell her you were going to do it for yourself anyway. Never because she is not capable. I will attach some more resources. If you have been reading through the posts you have probably already seen these.

https://www.consumerfinance.gov/consumer-tools/managing-someone-elses-money/

https://www.medicaidplanningassistance.org/medicaid-eligibility-income-chart/