Moved mom in today and very afraid

norab2684 · January 12

Hello, first post here and hoping for some insight. My mom is late stage and spent 3 weeks in the hospital because it was not safe for her at home. She was moved to a facility today and they don't even have a memory care unit. We do not have money, so it is paid for with medicaid and it was the first bed available and we were being pushed out of the hospital (rightfully so after such a long stay).
When she was admitted there was a short evaluation by a nurse and then she was left in her bed with no alarm or bedrails. No one helped her get dressed (she was still in a hospital gown). Her lunch came and they did not ask if she wanted to get into a wheelchair and go eat. Just dropped in off and left. She cannot really feed herself anymore.

We were shocked at the lack up support particularly on her very first day. We are all heartbroken and confused.

Is this typical? Are we overreacting and the facility is just trying to see what she can do on her own? I am so worried about her.

JulietteBee · January 13

I'd be worried too. Sadly, her care will not get better. That is not how we assess our patient's level of functionality.

Can mom go home with family until you guys can find a better place for her?

I am so very sorry to hear of your experience.😢

psg712 · January 13

Speak with the director of nursing as soon as possible. Insist on being a part of the development of her plan of care. You know her needs and they do not, and unfortunately it appears they are not trying to learn. Make it clear that she needs assistance to eat. Sadly, it's not likely that there will be someone available for one on one assist throughout the meal - nursing homes are not staffed for that. Ask the director how they will help her to eat, dress, bathe, brush her teeth ... make it clear exactly what she can and cannot do. Agree with JulietteBee that you can look around for other options. If (and I hope this isn't the case) she needs to be admitted to a hospital again, please know that you can refuse any placement for her that you are not satisfied with.

H1235 · January 13

Welcome. For mom there was a meeting with a few members of staff that first day to go over care concerns and what her needs were. If you haven’t had a meeting like this I would request one asap. Moms facility does them every few months. Unfortunately they are insisting mom is invited to the next one. Crazy. Let’s discuss the care needs of someone who thinks they have no care needs right in front of her🙄. Maybe they figured that since you were there, you would help her. Even still I think I can see why you are concerned.

pamu · January 13

No, you're not overreacting. Definitely speak to the staff about her care needs, and monitor it. You might be right and they may be observing but if that's not the case, I would probably contact the facility social worker (or even the hospital social worker) to see if she can move to a facility with memory care.

easy23 · January 13

If this is a nursing home, I would spend as much time as possible with your mother and see if you can correct problems as they arise. Speak to the charge nurse and let her know what your mother needs. Ask them to call you when needed. Keep the lines of communication open.

Moved mom in today and very afraid

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