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The end is near

Vitruvius
Vitruvius Member Posts: 459
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Today I was informed by the hospice nurse that they think my DW is in the very final stage. She is having difficulty swallowing and is taking in very little food or liquid. Yesterday she had only a few partial spoons of puréed food and juice. Today they are no longer able to give her medication as pills and so they will begin liquid morphine for pain and comfort.  The nurse was hesitant to make any definitive prediction, but said this generally means she will passing in "at most a couple of weeks". My research suggests less, although my DW has defied the past predictions of her passing, so who knows.

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  • White Crane
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    My prayers are with you and your dear wife.

  • BethL
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    I'm so sorry.

  • GothicGremlin
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    I'm thinking of you @Vitruvius and your DW.

    When my sister got to that stage it wasn't two weeks. It was more like a week, but like you said, it's so hard to know.

  • Anna2022
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    I am hoping this time passes gently for both you and your wife.

  • Chance Rider
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    @Vitruvius I’m so sorry. My thoughts are with you as well as hope for a painless passing for your wife.

  • annie51
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    My thoughts and prayers are with you. Sending hugs.

  • jgreen
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    God be with both of you, @Vitruvius

    You are in my prayers

  • Lgb35
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    prayers for you both.

  • JeriLynn66
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    Prayers for peace for you both 🙏🏻

  • David1941
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    Praying for both of you - that it be a quiet, painless, and deeply loving moment for you both! 🙏

  • RetiredTeacher
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    Praying for you and your DW that she goes gently to the other side and God gives you strength for stage 8. We are here for you.

  • Biggles
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    May this part of your’s and your DW’s journey be calm and gentle.

  • Quilting brings calm
    Quilting brings calm Member Posts: 3,163
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    I’m sorry. I think it will be just a few days.

  • Kat63
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    Prayers to you both. 🙏🏻

  • CindyBum
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    Sending you strength.

  • SDianeL
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    so sorry. Praying for your strength and for a peaceful passing for your dear wife. 💜🙏

  • Goodlife2025
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    Praying for peace for you both. May her passing be gentle…

  • Beachfan
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    Vitruvius, Please know that my heart and prayers are with you at this time. May you be granted peace and strength and may your dear wife pass gently. 🙏🏻🩷

  • shiawase12
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    Sending prayers to you both. Peace and strength for this difficult time. Hugs. 💕

  • Jgirl57
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    (((Hugs))) for a gentle passing….

  • Metta
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    Praying for peace for you. Hospice told me that DH likely had weeks. He passed three days later.

  • wose
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    Thinking of you and wishing you and your Dear Wife peace and comfort💕💙

  • Chance Rider
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    @Vitruvius

    Thinking of you and sending {{{hugs}}} 💜

  • Lgb35
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    @Vitruvius thinking about you and your DW. Praying for a smooth and peaceful transition for you both

  • M5M
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    Your time has been long, Vitruvius. Praying the end is peaceful.

  • Karen711
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    Wishing you peace and strength Vitruvius!

  • midge333
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    I am sorry. I hope she has a quick and painless death.

  • Nowhere
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    Vitruvius,

    The dementia path often seems so long, and so knowing your dear wife’s time is near must be difficult to fathom. You’ve been a wonderful carer through these challenging years. Wishing you both peace.

Commonly Used Abbreviations


DH = Dear Husband
DW= Dear Wife, Darling Wife
LO = Loved One
ES = Early Stage
EO = Early Onset
FTD = Frontotemporal Dementia
VD = Vascular Dementia
MC = Memory Care
AL = Assisted Living
POA = Power of Attorney
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